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| Author: | TheSlug [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 11:47 am ] |
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| Author: | Snake Doctor [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 12:50 pm ] |
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You have the right mindset, good for you. Want to change style and you are doing sports. You are the right track to win her back, but this isn’t a 100%. Let me tell what worked for me. Cut Contact for 1\2 months she will probably reiniate contact.(what you are trying to do is giving her the sense of loss, and start missing all those time you were together), Again let her go , if she doesn’t comeback she cleary doesn’t deserve you)Btw 5 of November too soon. This is a marathon not a sprint Believe me she is sad also, so man up… she may be the one to break it up but we are all humans, you cut that attachment after so wonderfull memories girls are so fucking emocional that she will take it hard also so remember that when you are feeling sorry for yourself. No sappy messages capice. If you have no choice because of your obligations now to see her, be nice but you don’t have time for her, so no time to catch up talk or even to talk about breakup. Go grab a new hobby that you were going to take now you have the time In any circumstances dont talk about the breakup. If you bump in to her please again don’t chat, go the fuck away. Go game other girls this is so important, and this was a major boost for me, it gave me so much confidence because, I had a lot of girls chasing me at that time. After the 2 months if she reiniates, flake a few times and postpone, so you don’t give the impression you were eager for the phone call. Tell her you are busy give her a good excuse, and at the same time a DHV. After that time go cock and funny mode , try and show her how much you change. Push and Pull(again GAME OTHER GIRLS) And more important why do want your ex back? You need to be sure that want you want, in my experience she is not worth believe you can’t rebuild what has been destroyed, you will figure it out eventually , it won’t be the same if you guys come back together. But again 1\2 months is more than enough time for you to prioritize your life. And see if she worth it or not. Best of luck mate. |
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| Author: | TheSlug [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 8:04 pm ] |
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| Author: | TheFreshPrince [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 8:30 pm ] |
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Hm. The two things she's upset about don't mean anything (tickets and HP). Those are excuses as to the real reason why she's upset. Any rational person is not going to care about it that much. Which leaves three options: 1. She's irrational. But you would know it by now after 11 months. 2. It's just because she's off her meds. Possible, but more likely: 3. It's a smokescreen, so that she doesn't have to face reality. We live in a culture that tells women that they can have this perfect Hollywood, movie, fairytale romance. That's not how REAL relationships work. But men and women both (especially women) are confused on this, because they believe what they're sold by the media. It seems to me that you guys have been very close these 11 months, and now, all of a sudden, you're on this trip, and she has very little real contact with you. The "I'm in a relationship, so I feel good" drugs start wearing off. And she realizes that what SHE had called "love" before can't be love, because it's no longer there, and Hollywood tells us that True Love stays forever, right? So she feels she must have the wrong guy, and she wants to make sure she's found the right guy before her biological clock turns off, which at the age of 25, is starting to tick very loudly. And without too many other things to distract her, such as a job that she ENJOYS, she's stuck with focusing on finding "love". To be honest, I don't know what I can tell you to fix it, but I definitely wanted you to be aware of my perspective on what is going on. |
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| Author: | Snake Doctor [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 11:34 pm ] |
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Again we are trying to help we dont have our emotions getting in the way. But you do what you feel confortable but... She was the one to breakup...remember this. And fresh prince gaved a good perspective you need to think before you act with your heart. 1 month is your best bet. She needs to miss you(THIS IS KEY), let her see the world, let her get tired of the real world, maybe she will find something better, or maybe she will think of one year relantioship she had. Dont believe on those hollywood stories. If you pull now you are just going to push her. I know you wanna acted now, because you are sad and you cant live without her. Whatever you wanna do regarding this girl you have to think the opposite. If you wanna talk to her then strategy is dont talk to her. I know it sounds confusing but your emotions are blinding you from doing what is right. And Think like this, if in one month you have zero chances with her, you didnt lost much, a fucking girl who forgets one year of relantioship in fucking month you didnt lost much. |
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| Author: | TheSlug [ Wed Oct 19, 2011 9:45 pm ] |
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| Author: | Snake Doctor [ Wed Oct 19, 2011 10:12 pm ] |
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Ok if you have to contact sent her a txt, be polite but be objective. Ask for what you need nothing more nothing less. Don’t ask for coffees and flake ffs if she ask. |
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| Author: | TheSlug [ Fri Oct 21, 2011 8:14 am ] |
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| Author: | TheSlug [ Sat Oct 22, 2011 7:17 pm ] |
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| Author: | P1nkstar [ Sat Oct 22, 2011 10:23 pm ] |
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We all been there man, this will pass. You want a girl back who wasted her chance to be with this great guy, you? I think you pushed the future too much with her, and where a bit too nice, predictable, in your relationship. Completly ignoring her worked for me in the past. Even answering her msg on msn let's her feel she still got you when she wants, that's not a feeling you want her to have. Let her miss you, when she can't speak to you anymore, she wants to speak to you, when she knows she lost you, she gets regrets, and hopefully they are strong enough to take you back. In your head, she needs to lose value (you might needed this in the relationship already). What's the worst outcome for the situation, that you have a chance to meet a better girl, that's pretty good right? and yea, the obvious, when does she get's this feeling that she missed out? When she sees you with other girls. Try to put your feelings aside, and go meet new people. |
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| Author: | TheSlug [ Tue Oct 25, 2011 8:14 am ] |
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Thanks for the advice so far guys, this no contact stuff really hurts..... |
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| Author: | TheSlug [ Tue Oct 25, 2011 8:31 pm ] |
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| Author: | TheFreshPrince [ Tue Oct 25, 2011 8:48 pm ] |
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There you go. Congrats, man. |
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| Author: | dan27 [ Wed Oct 26, 2011 3:27 am ] |
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Quote: You know what, after much thought, I think she needs to take a bit of responsibility as well.
I am a pretty damn good boyfriend and most men wouldn't put up with half the shit she put me through. *Spine Restored* Time to move forward. 
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| Author: | TheSlug [ Mon Oct 31, 2011 2:33 pm ] |
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