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Author:  Andres_Moreno [ Thu Sep 29, 2011 2:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Let's just be friends with benefits :-)

Alright guys, how many times have you heard the phrase "You are great, really. But I just don't like you THAT way... Let's just be friends." Probably quite a few. Now how about "I don't like you as a person, let's just fuck our brains out." Hmmmm.

She's an actress - mainly theater, but she has appeared in a couple of movies as well. Btw. we are talking about the Czech Republic here, so don't worry, she's no major superstar. But still, she's good at what she's doing and she has a very strong and unpredictable personality. An artist, you know... Definitely no bimbo.

We went to grab some drinks, we went to see a drama in the theater, we talk about Woody Allen movies. But we are very different. I am a lawyer, she's an actress. I am very optimistic, she is sarcastic and cynical to the point of psychosis. And I am very much in love with her while she doesn't care at all. Or at least it seems that way.

But she keeps coming to my place like twice a week and we have amazing sex. There is so much passion in that. But afterwards she gets cold again. I mean, she doesn't get hostile or anything, just detached and indifferent. It is starting to fuck with my mind and emotions. It would be wise to delete her number and not answer the phone, but it's kinda hard...

Any thouhts?

Author:  Mr-Rev [ Thu Sep 29, 2011 3:16 pm ]
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I'd love that situation, I'm slightly the same as her, given the choice I'd barely do any kino, then get to the bedroom and go wild.

My opinion sometimes you have to just make a decision, either you just roll with the situation and be happy with what you've got, or you have got to say this ain't working, I don't enjoy the coldness and ditch, may be surprised by her reaction.. But I wouldn't expect anything.

Really down to you and whether you want to reap the benefits or drop the negatives.

Author:  khuram [ Thu Sep 29, 2011 3:42 pm ]
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i agree with mr.rev

Author:  Andres_Moreno [ Thu Sep 29, 2011 4:05 pm ]
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Yeah, I definitely want to reap the benefits... Hell, it's all I always wanted. To screw a hot girl and not be exclusive. This time, however, I wish for something more. It's her goddamn charisma and personality.
I guess it's time to face it. Screwing her is all it is...

Author:  Mr-Rev [ Thu Sep 29, 2011 4:44 pm ]
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I badly want to say 'good lad!'
..

So I will, GOOD LAD!

Author:  cedius [ Thu Sep 29, 2011 9:58 pm ]
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It sounds like you want more than she is willing to give. Too bad it's not the other way around...I read once...there is no such thing as meaningless sex...almost always...again...ALMOST always...someone becomes attached to the fact that they in fact want more with that person...but there are those few that can have that kind of relationship...and that's great. Sex is one of the biggest components that brings two closer to each other…you are both vulnerable, open and the fact that she is giving you what she wouldn’t just give anyone…it’s somewhat a big deal…not counting those that can be with any and every one.

I actually just got out of a "Friends with Benefit" relationship...was good for 2 months. She was 27, no kids...and was very very good in bed...on the list of lays, she was up there and very open minded...I like "Open Minded" but my point is...she then brought up the ... "We need to talk". I already knew what that meant...she went to say that she was beginning to develop feelings...and don't get me wrong, I care about her...but I’m just not ready to get into a relationship and to just get into one for good sex is not fair to her. She basically gave me an ultimatum even though she phrased it as otherwise. I still think about her and would love to sleep with her again...but it's best I respect the fact that since I can’t give her what she wants...I should leave her be.

Perhaps the above will be no use to you...or maybe it will.

1.Decide what you want and keep in mind that you may not be able to change her mindset.

2.If you find this situation common for you...then go back to #1.

3. If this is not so common, you just might find yourself wishing you kept this going...once you break it off, she may just go find someone else and going back and asking to start up again may just not be in the cards for you...but don’t' sacrifice your well-being in the process, if you can't, then you can't...no worries. Do what’s best for you...don't worry about being judged!

I was the same way, very passionate in bed but then after wards…it was just a friends thing. She would say how I was emotionless…but it was just supposed to be sex. Good luck and I hope you can figure out what is best for you.

Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Thu Sep 29, 2011 10:39 pm ]
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next time she shows up, have another girl waiting...

Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Thu Sep 29, 2011 10:41 pm ]
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be like snuggling on the couch with the girl, arm around her, drinking drinks, watching a movie, with the lights low.

and say...

SWEET! YOU ARE HERE! SHALL WE GET THIS PARTAY STARTED?

and just get up and start walking toward the bedroom.

it's just sex? right?

Author:  idomiralin [ Fri Sep 30, 2011 12:01 pm ]
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Be a challenge and cold, indifferent and see, what reaction she will have. Try to copy her behavior and tease her a lot, so that she will be very uncertain about you two. Don't show her, that you like her, let her wonder, whether or not it's true.
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Author:  mattyman [ Thu Jan 19, 2012 4:25 pm ]
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have an "accident" where you double book yourself with another girl.

Author:  Kuja [ Thu Jan 19, 2012 4:39 pm ]
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Quote:
be like snuggling on the couch with the girl, arm around her, drinking drinks, watching a movie, with the lights low.

and say...

SWEET! YOU ARE HERE! SHALL WE GET THIS PARTAY STARTED?

and just get up and start walking toward the bedroom.

it's just sex? right?
HAHAHAHA Brilliant!

Author:  the_modern_warrior [ Tue Feb 14, 2012 11:38 am ]
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Life is good son, go with the flow. Fuck her brains out , have some fun.Game other chicks but enjoy the ride while it last

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