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Author:  DrewDating [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 6:17 pm ]
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EVERYONE on the forums, fb groups and what have you always talk about how they have approach anxiety. holy crap i'm starting to lose my mind. 99% chance you dont have an actual anxiety disorder. anxiety is a REAL thing and not something to brush off. just admit youre shy.

in this video there is 3 excellent tips on how to get over your SHYNESS when talking to women

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q6j4g2Lqlw4
Author:  JackZero [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 6:45 pm ]
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Anxiety means being nervous, so I believe approach anxiety is actually a real thing. Not approaching doesn't necessarily have to do with shyness. It could be caused because of not knowing the outcome, not feeling like you're good enough, afraid of what other people watching may think, or quite a few other things. Most of the time the actual approach anxiety boils down to a belief system that needs to be overcome or corrected.
Author:  DrewDating [ Thu Mar 10, 2016 7:10 am ]
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Anxiety means being nervous, so I believe approach anxiety is actually a real thing. Not approaching doesn't necessarily have to do with shyness. It could be caused because of not knowing the outcome, not feeling like you're good enough, afraid of what other people watching may think, or quite a few other things. Most of the time the actual approach anxiety boils down to a belief system that needs to be overcome or corrected.
anxiety definitely does not just mean nervous. it is an actual disorder.
Author:  JackZero [ Thu Mar 10, 2016 7:30 am ]
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Anxiety means being nervous, so I believe approach anxiety is actually a real thing. Not approaching doesn't necessarily have to do with shyness. It could be caused because of not knowing the outcome, not feeling like you're good enough, afraid of what other people watching may think, or quite a few other things. Most of the time the actual approach anxiety boils down to a belief system that needs to be overcome or corrected.
anxiety definitely does not just mean nervous. it is an actual disorder.
FFS, if you want to be technical, in psychiatry...it's a disorder. If you want to speak in the dictionary definition, it is nervousness/fear. Shyness does not equal nervousness or fear because some of the most social and outgoing men have a fear of approaching women.
Author:  oceanx [ Thu Mar 10, 2016 10:59 am ]
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Approach Anxiety is just a shorthand term so people can relate to the term. Many argue that AA is hard wired in to us from ancient times when approaching a woman carried actual and not imagined risk. The beautiful thing is that on any given day, AA can be easily solved by simply approaching a girl or two.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Mar 10, 2016 9:06 pm ]
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It's hardly a revelation.

Anxiety can rang from a feeling of nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome. Like approaching a girl with the fear of rejection all lumped up on your throat, to being unable to get out of bed in the morning, for fear the ground is made out of hot magma.

Both fears although unfounded, feel real enough to the person feeling it.
Author:  DrewDating [ Mon Apr 11, 2016 3:54 am ]
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Approach Anxiety is just a shorthand term so people can relate to the term. Many argue that AA is hard wired in to us from ancient times when approaching a woman carried actual and not imagined risk. The beautiful thing is that on any given day, AA can be easily solved by simply approaching a girl or two.
doesnt mean people should give the label "anxiety" to themselves. like i said its like saying someone has OCD when really they have OCPD

if youre going to say someone has anxiety make sure they have it first. use the right terminology ffs
Author:  JackZero [ Mon Apr 11, 2016 4:05 am ]
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I apologize for even responding to the original post. You made a YouTube video and need the word "anxiety" to fit your specific definition in order for it to work regardless of what a dictionary would say.
Author:  DrewDating [ Wed Apr 13, 2016 8:57 am ]
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I apologize for even responding to the original post. You made a YouTube video and need the word "anxiety" to fit your specific definition in order for it to work regardless of what a dictionary would say.
well JackZero i apologize that you just dont get it. maybe one day youll break through the "approach anxiety" fallacy and finally conquer it. but until then... i guess youll just have to live with that limiting belief.


you never really hear naturals talking about how they have approach anxiety... but ya know..
Author:  JackZero [ Wed Apr 13, 2016 3:33 pm ]
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I apologize for even responding to the original post. You made a YouTube video and need the word "anxiety" to fit your specific definition in order for it to work regardless of what a dictionary would say.
well JackZero i apologize that you just dont get it. maybe one day youll break through the "approach anxiety" fallacy and finally conquer it. but until then... i guess youll just have to live with that limiting belief.


you never really hear naturals talking about how they have approach anxiety... but ya know..
Oh wow...you got me. Me and this fake approach anxiety that I'm going through is really keeping me down.

Seriously though. You don't understand nervousness or fear. Think about it this way...children often are afraid of the dark when they are young. At some point in their life, they normally conquer their fear because maybe a parent makes them sleep with the light off or takes away the night light. The first few nights maybe scary, but they eventually get through it and conquer that fear. It's a realization that there was nothing to be afraid of in the first place. Now take that same understanding of fear of the dark to the fear of approaching, or what Pick Up calls Approach Anxiety. At some point a guy will make an approach and he'll realize there will be only two things that will happen, a girl will be interested or a girl won't be interested and the world will keep spinning regardless. Most guys that have not been successful with women and are trying to learn how to be go through this and eventually get over it just like a child gets over the fear of the dark. Even a natural could have started off too nervous to approach his first few women.

Pick up has a lot of terms that are made up to describe a problem. I'm sure if you go pick up a psychiatry book, you won't find Approach Anxiety as a real thing. I'm also sure if you look up Oneitus is a medical dictionary, you won't find any kind of inflammatory condition with that name. They are simply mashup terms used to point out self limiting beliefs.
Author:  DrewDating [ Fri Apr 15, 2016 6:35 am ]
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I'm sure if you go pick up a psychiatry book, you won't find Approach Anxiety as a real thing. I'm also sure if you look up Oneitus is a medical dictionary, you won't find any kind of inflammatory condition with that name. They are simply mashup terms used to point out self limiting beliefs.

thanks for finally agreeing with me :lol:

people shouldnt be using 'anxiety' if it isnt an actual disorder. people shouldnt be saying they have OCD if they dont actually have it. its not my definition, its just the correct one. people can be afraid of things and when someone has an unhealthy amount of fear it can become a disorder. please watch this video to understand my position https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aX7jnVXXG5o

people hear 'anxiety' and they put a label on themselves and say they cant get rid of it. call it what it really is, fear of approaching, fear of failure, being scared of approaching. lets not call it what it isnt, a type of anxiety. so get outta here with your straw man arguments and making claims that i'm twisting words just to make a video. no one is buying any of your BS.

btw, thanks for watching my video rather if you disagree or not :)
Author:  JackZero [ Fri Apr 15, 2016 6:59 am ]
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thanks for finally agreeing with me
Reading is fundamental. I said there is no approach anxiety when it comes to psychiatry but in regular English it's an appropriate term. This is a definition from the dictionary:

anx·i·e·ty
/aNGˈzīədē/
noun
a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.
"he felt a surge of anxiety"

Let's use that in a more complete sentence: He felt a surge of anxiety because he's never approached a woman before.

It's an appropriate term. I don't think you're twisting words, you just don't understand them. I blame public school education.
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