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Author:  Emotions [ Tue Aug 16, 2011 7:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Starting out!!!! [Help me please]
Hello Everyone!!

I just wanted to introduce myself, I live in Toronto downtown, and I'm 21 years old (I hope the username "Emotion" is not being used by someone else, if it is and it disturbs you just let me know and I'll change it!).

I've been reading PUA material for the past 3 months.
I'm a very methodical guy, approaching people once in a while, I like practicing one step at a time, but I feel that I eject too quick. I finished reading the MM method, and I am currently trying to integrate LS and RSD into my game.

I almost never go clubbing, since I don't know any good clubs in Toronto where I can go sarging alone, nor which days are good (anyone knows?). I have friends but I want this new hobby to be private, if possible. I try opening sets in malls, coffee shops, etc... (I try going to a mall at least once a week, and open at least 5 sets).

I guess I can open now. I get good responses from people, but then I don't know where to go from there, so I blank-out, I get VERY NERVOUS (specially since I have a spanish accent), and I end up introducing myself "Hi, my name is...", usually they give me their name, then I thank them and eject, super scared as if I was running for my life :(

I have read that I should deliver my disqualifier/transition, but I feel a little uncomfortable doing so. Maybe saying a story about a girlfriend "that reminds me when my girlfriend..." and then saying she was my ex if they ask?

I am STUCK... I've been stuck just on opening people for over a month now.
I don't know how to transition, and I hate milking the opener!!
Any good recommendations on transitioning/what's the next step!?!
Author:  DSapphire [ Tue Aug 16, 2011 10:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Keep going
Well my friend, the answer to your question greatly depends on the type of player you want to be.

If you consider yourself methodical and want to have a SYSTEM, step-by-step what to say and when, then I'm probably not your guy. I used to muck around with indirect pickup/routines but I soon realized, as I've seen every guy who goes from "good" to "great" at this realize, that SO much of your stress and nervousness is removed when you focus on natural game.

The truth is, most people simply DON'T give a shit about your fake stories about your ex girlfriend, disqualifiers, rehearsed routines. What people give a shit about is meeting a REAL genuine person with a REAL personality. I'm sure you can think of a time you met someone who was just SO comfortable with themselves that everyone around them can't help but be charmed by them. In my opinion, THIS is the type of man you really want to be, and THIS is the goal you should be going for, whether you realize it early in your journey or later on.

Given you're still reading this, what I would suggest is after you open up a group, say ANYTHING that puts the ATTENTION and focus of the conversation on someone other than you (ideally put the focus on your target). If your mind goes blank, saying "wow, that's so weird. My mind totally just went blank. Anyways, what did you guys say your names were?" will work wonders. Be CURIOUS about the people you are meeting, find out their names, what they're up to, what they're amused by, and you'll have done something much more powerful which will get you much more pussy than "K-CLOSING AN HB 8.74744552 AND OVERCOMING HER LMR AND ASD!!!11111" - you will have made new friends. THIS is the way to get endless amounts of new pussy with minimal amounts of effort.

Anyways, there's a whole lot more I could say on this but I'll leave it at that :) PM me if you want any clarity.

Oh and PS, I'm from Toronto myself though I live in California now. There's tons of good bars, clubs and festivals going on in the city. Just check out "Now" magazine.

Later.
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