Hi guys!
Let me introduce myself by saying that I'm definitely still a an AFC, but I think I might be on to something that sparked my interest. Hopefully you guys can help me out, here.
Some facts about myself:
I'm 29 years old, I live in a Scandinavian country and I work as a lawyer. I'm about 6"2 and currently I weigh about 230lbs. I used to be 299lbs. I've been a competitive powerlifter and still compete in strength contests from time to time, hence the weight.
Now, when it comes to girls I've been a complete loser up until about a year ago.
If I were to guess what went wrong, I'd say that it went something like this:
Ever since I was a kid I've been doing sports, and I have this "fanatic" attitude about everything I do. For example I can't settle for being the lawyer in our firm with the second highest income, I have to be number one. Same with sports - I work out everyday, quite obsessively. I've had countless injuries because of this (muscles torn in half, among other things).
This meant that when the other guys started hanging out with girls and drinking when they were teens, I was spending hours and hours in a gym playing ball in order to be the best I could be and so on.
I can actually count the times I've tasted alcohol on one hand (and I'm turning 30 soon).
When I was in my early 20s I just assumed that a reasonably hot chick would just.....well...fall into my lap somehow if I just worked hard at being the best I could be, professionally and physically. Yeah, that didn't happen.
I then ended up getting severe sleep apnea which meant that my energy levels were always were low. I stopped getting the results that I wanted in the gym, and resorted to eating more. I was powerlifting at the time, and assumed that bigger = stronger. That's true to a certain degree, but when I tipped the scale at 300lbs with a big belly, I didn't get many IOIs to put it mildly.
So, I ended up getting more and more injuries and I was forced to take it easy in the gym. I also got my sleep apnea treated and got more energy.
I found out that I'd go completely crazy if I stopped training while waiting for my body to heal up, so I started doing a lot of cardio. In fact I lost about 65lbs (mostly fat) in a year and a half. That's when things started changing.
Since I don't drink and I work hard all week long, I have little energy and interest in going out to pubs and night clubs in the weekends. So instead I started using internet dating sites, specifically the more....erotic ones *ahem* to see if I had a chance. Yes - I know how pathetic that is - but its actually working. Crazy - but it does!
No - these girls are not escorts!!
Well, it started last spring during the easter holiday. I just sent out some pics with a short message to a Malaysian chick living about 30 minutes away from me. It ended with me taking her up to my office and banging her in the reception area. I thought it was just a fluke - that I got lucky right there and then, but suddenly I scored with three more chicks in a couple of months. One was a HB7, the other were average at best. But at least I was getting laid.
I then started to heal up and started regaining my lost muscle mass. Then got a new severe injury, but it looks like it might heal (its been a year).
I kept on doing cardio and kept my body fat low, and started to look more like a body builder than a fat powerlifter. Not like the pro body builders you see in magazines and such, but a reasonably fit off-season amateur body builder perhaps.
When I bought a new apartment closer to work last fall, I had more time on my hand and made some profiles on some more dating sites to see what would come of it.
The next six months, I got laid with 13 different girls. Some were HB7, most of them around 5, but still! What the.....!!!??
This is not "suppose" to happen, because I don't have any game at all. All I do is approach girls who are on-line, send them a short message with a lot of smileys in it (chicks love smileys
) and a picture of me with little or no clothes on. It's really, really, really lame - but it seems to be working! Of these 13 girls, only ONE has asked me to take her out on a proper date first. All the others have simply given me their phone number and address after chatting on MSN (and maybe texting for a few hours) and asked me to come over. Then we have 10 minutes of small talk before humping each other like animals.
It should be said that I live in a country with extremely low crime rates, so girls might be less aware of the dangers of inviting a strange man to their homes here....but still.
Now my honey pot is about to run dry as there's a limit to how many extremely slutty chicks you can find on these sites, and I guess I'm standing at a crossroad here.
I have some friends who are PUAs, and pretty damn good at it too (one of them stopped counting after the first 100 girls he got laid with), who mock me for being a "one trick pony" and they're right, I guess.
I did hook up with a reasonably hot blonde at a party a few weeks ago (HB7). It ended with us making out like teenagers, while she played with my....equipment in a sofa in a bar (good thing I know the bouncer, or I would have been in so much trouble
). Didn't get to nail her though....even though she asked me earlier that evening if I wanted to sleep with her.I guess getting laid means that I have a more relaxed and confident attitude around chicks than I did before, but other than that I still haven't got a clue why things work when they do, and fail when they don't. All I know is that if a girl squeezes my biceps, leans into me or such, then I can lean into her and kiss her. If that goes well, I just escalate until we're both buck naked and doing the nasty stuff. I'm guessing that there's more to being a pick up artist than this, and I'd like to learn more. What can I say - I've gotten the taste of chicks and I'm hooked like a junkie!
Hopefully you guys can help me figure this shit out.
Anyways, I'll browse through the forum now and try to soak up some wisdom and I hope to learn all I can from you guys!
Cheers!