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| Author: | nashnewbie [ Wed Jun 08, 2011 11:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | My introduction from Nashville |
Hello all - I just found this forum - and I couldn't even tell you what I was looking for which brought me to it - and am interested. I'm 26 years old and live a fairly 'normal' life with one flaw, my inexperience with women. I've been with about 4 females sexually and only 2 in which I closed the deal. My issue has been with anxiety, I've had some great friends all throughout college and they would always be 'hooking up' with random girls, girlfriends, etc and I was always the shy one. For whatever reason, I can turn on the charm in groups and such but when it comes to attraction, I bomb. I'll even know when someone is attracted to me but at that point I get frightened (of what?) and back off. What scares me is, I'm not getting any younger and you only live once. If/when I do find a partner I would be too scared to even close the deal for fear of her 'catching' my experience. An example would be one girl I 'hooked' up with, I had her naked on my bed and I was too frightened to have sex when she was ready and willing because I thought she would recognize my inexperience. Many of my good friends joke with me and question my sexuality because there is absolutely nothing preventing me from engaging with females except my own fear. I constantly rationalize why I _CAN'T_ do something rather than why I should. Many have told me I will live my life alone because _I_ push away. I have a college education, an all right job, a condo downtown --basically hitting every goal that I've wanted to hit-- but I still feel alone due to my inability with woman. I opened my eyes recently. And while this may not be appropriate for this forum, while at a bachelor party weekend on the coast I tried some MDMA before a bar. I was talking to random people, having random girls dance with me, etc etc. One of my friends said "Listen man, you can do it but you are using that drug as a mask, it's all you. Don't think the drug is doing anything you can't do on your own." And he was right. I was. With the anxiety gone, I realized how the limiting factor was me. Of course, once the effects wear off old habits remain. I've realized I'm not getting any younger, I'm 26 and need to focus on this part of my life before it's too late. I'm lucky I found this forum and hopefully can learn a lot here. Of course, reading is painless, will I actually do what I read here on the street? Well, that's difficult to say. My friends have started getting married and another one is proposing in a few weeks, etc etc. It's really fight or flight at this age. I'm looking for anyone with similar experiences and also seeing if there are fellow Nashvillians of my age group around here. I live downtown so getting out quite often isn't too much of an issue for me. With that said, I'm a real cool guy with a decent group of friends -I would say I'm 'normal'- but I'm inexperienced in this regard, so I'm looking for anyone who is down to kick it to let me know. Sorry if this is a long read for one of my first posts, I thought I would make it worthwhile. |
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