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| Author: | topz [ Mon Jun 06, 2011 10:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Pro Bowler who needs to learn how to catch! |
Wht's up guys?! So this whole PUA community has greatly intrigued me for quite some time. I guess, to shed a little light bit about me... I would say i'm a decent looking guy, i'm not george clooney or brad pitt, but ive been told that i look better than the average. Yet through out my life, i've had such bad luck with girls. To be completely honest the only time i ever had a girlfriend was when they kinda just fell into my lap (literally in one scenario). MAN! if i had a buck for all the times ive fell into the friends zone, i would be um maybe 50 bucks richer?? but you get the point. Anyways, when i discovered this community through style's book The Game, it was the solution to the puzzle that's riddled me through out my life. Ive been through numerous forums, read numerous book, and did a lot of research however, as they say, you can read everything bout football, but if you don't go out and do it, you won't get better... which i completely agree. BUT my problem is the very FIRST step. the APPROACH. i dont know what it is... but i can't make myself do it. I want to be out there playing ball but how can i, if i can't even catch or RUN for that matter. i'm hoping you guys can help out thru your expertise and experiences!! Believe me! you'll hear from me again soon!! |
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| Author: | Fictional [ Mon Jun 06, 2011 11:00 pm ] |
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Approach is probably the biggest sticker people have, though you sound like you have a bit of an issue with sexual escalation aswell. But approach. Dress well, generally look good and walk down the street. Smile at women, see how they respond. You will notice you generally get a positive response aslong as the smile looks genuine. Then just start mouthing "hello" "hi" "hey", whatever as you make eye contact. Again the response with how many women will say hi back will probably shock you. When you see this for yourself, it is such a small step to hi, how are you. it is that simple no fancy lines of weird openers. Forget chatting them up at first, just learn how to talk to them in a totally non sexual way. And as you get better and better at this. Your confidence will go. I feel you tho this was my biggest issue, i used to do prop openers. I smoke so simplest thing was to ask for a light and start a conversation like that. As i saw they responded fine to a conversation, i just began to try it without the need for a reason to be there and it was fine. How are you once the initial contact has been made? Cos the first couple of minutes are vital. You dont capture interest then you've lost it. (if you get a bit stuck on what to say, i found that kezia nobles 9 hook lead system was really useful, couple mates who struggle with having a conversation that isnt an interrogation used it and improved greatly) |
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| Author: | topz [ Mon Jun 06, 2011 11:10 pm ] |
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once i'm talking to the girl (usually by a friend introducing me or maybe mutual friends) making the conversation fun and interesting seems to be ok. I will probably need to work on kino esclation and dhv, well actually probably the rest of the game afterwards... but again the approach is wht's killing me. I wanna experience and learn the rest but i really can't with out approaching girl rite? I've tried some DHV routines, creating rapport, kino, couple times, again once i've been introduced to a girl and had some success... actually kiss closed a girl once. It was then when i realized that the PUA community is legit and it works, but i gotta get over this first stickign point. Thanks tho, for the advice. I've tried that exercise several time and it definitely eases my approach anxiety, but once i'm at a bar or club, or a time where i know i should approach a good looking girl, it all just floods back. |
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| Author: | Fictional [ Mon Jun 06, 2011 11:20 pm ] |
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Outcome dependancy. You only get this approaching attractive women i take it? Dont base any interaction on a set out come. I go to a bar and open sets just for the fun of talking, if the people and interesting i will stay if not i move on. I open a set and a alright girl might be so smart so interesting all of a sudden im like hey maybe ive found some fun for tonight. Imagine you walk up to a hot hot girl and she has the most annoying voice in the world, i would walk off. I could talk to her and i definately am not gonna have sex with her if all im thinking all the way through it is please shut up. Dont go into and interaction hoping on an outcome. Go in just to get to know someone then decide. Dont get me wrong if the girl is megan fox of course u want her in ur bed no matter what. But girls like that are a rarity and all girls are replacable. It isnt like just cos u dont suceed with her you will fail all night. NO DEPENDANCY ON AN OUTCOME. Then you having nothing to lose and everything to gain |
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