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Author:  confusedkid [ Sat May 28, 2011 11:22 am ]
Post subject:  Secondary School problems

okay I know what you guys say about oneitis, however I've tried everything, being with other girls and whatever, still uncured.

Only started reading about pu a month ago, read; the game, and mystery method

So basically, I'm pretty popular, got good friends get invited to most parties, am pretty good looking girls usually comment (sorry, I'm just trying to be truthful), I work-out religously, surf, snowboard and play guitar.

So basically, I've been liking this girl on and off for 4 years. I've fancied other girls inbetween too, however I always come back to this girl. It was recently that her best friend who knew I liked her, told me she fancied me. This was after I went on holiday for 5 weeks, so I was confused. Theres on thing I should point out, up until recently I haven't had the confidence to go up to her and speak to her - I still struggle - however when in a group of girls I fail to be able to entertain all of them like other boys do (probably AMOGs).

Also it is important to point out, on occasions before, when I was an extreme AFC and when I told her I liked her, I was LJBF.

So after hearing this girl liked me, I was unable to speak to her at school due to my shyness. However we texted all the time and I played uninterested and occasionally negged her. She put in lots of effort until one day, I decided I would tell her how I felt. She told me, she didn't know how she felt. The next day, we spoke alot (by text) as usual and I still played hard to get. The day after that, it was very difficult for me to keep up conversation with her.

A few weeks later, I try still to play hard to get with her, which is extremely difficult, as it is also me starting the conversation. I should mention here that I did spend a week not contacting her at all and I received two texts which were both only small talk.

Her friend asked her a week ago if she still liked me, she said she didn't know, and she didn't really like anyone at the moment, but she is going to speak to me?

So please guys. I've been working on my confidence, seen some results. What shall I do?

Other girls don't live up to her personality. At least the ones I've met. What do I do?

Author:  Validus [ Sat May 28, 2011 11:39 am ]
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First off, good for you to get out of your shell and start talking to her. However, there is one fatal mistake that you made that a lot of "AFCs" go through. You told her you liked her WAY too early. She is supposed to be fighting to get attention from you. Not the other way around. A lesson to be learned here is to say just ask her out without all this talking about how you feel about her. I recommend that you ask her out anyway and if she does go out with you, try some CF and have high energy. Make sure you don't fall into the trap of letting her lead. You have to be dominant and make sure that you are completely confident.

Personally, I disagree with MM. It just feels too incongruent and girls can pick up on it. Make sure it's you and remember to have fun. Hope it helped. :)

Author:  confusedkid [ Sat May 28, 2011 11:43 am ]
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Thanks for the advice! I sort of felt that after I told her...
Any ideas for how I should ask her?
Bearing in mind it's unlikely I'll see her for a week :/

Author:  Validus [ Sat May 28, 2011 11:57 am ]
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Honestly, this is a VERY big IF. I was able to pull this off only once. So don't worry if she rejects you. Just look at it as a learning experience if she does reject you. But, here is how you should go about it.

You should go up to her in person and just ask her out. Say "I'm going to do (this whatever it may be). It should be fun, you should join us."

If you cannot talk to her in person just game her on facebook or get her cell phone number. I HIGHLY discourage asking her out on facebook or through text. It is a sign of... weakness. Remember, facebook and texting is for having fun. :)

Author:  confusedkid [ Sun May 29, 2011 8:39 pm ]
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Was all going well yesterday, she said she wanted to see me more.

Now just been LJBF. That's what you get for looking keen.
Ready for anything now got nothing to lose.

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