Hello people and hopefully future friends.
I'm 22 years old and from sweden my story is basicly this:
like manny of you i've been abit of a "geek" most of my life, i've only been with 4 girls tho 1 of them was 1year relationship and another was a 3year relationship. now its like this that the 3years relationship recently ended (3 months ago) and she was the "love of my life" hell she still is to be honest. so i basicly came here for 2 reasons.
nr1 is that i want to better myself and my lifestyle, after the breakup i noticed pretty fast that the people who where actually there for me was not the people i've spent the most time with, not the guys i would have called my closest friends.
but it actually turned out that the guys i met throu common friends afew years ago but never really hung out with other than at parties and stuff and i would even go as far as to say i kinda disliked 1 of them... now that i actually have been spending time with thease guys i noticed that i had a completly wrong picture about them and that they are actually really awsome guys whom i now hang out with really often. but as i have always been sort of a geek i am still kinda socially ocward and i really want to improve on this... its not just about picking up girls but also alot of stuff like getting a good job i want. you know doing good at job interviews. meeting new friends and like catch up on how to be in social situations...
second reason is that well... i am still far from over my ex, i love her more than anything still but i also know she has moved on. she has a new bf. now we both had abit of a hard time with the breakup because we have both been there for eachother throu some really rough times. and i know her better than anyone els, even better than herself sometimes. so we want to remain friends wich have worked out quite well... the problem however is i really need to get over her. it pains me alot to read her blogg when she is talking about how much she loves the new guy and all that... so i came here to do the traditionaly "guy" thing... hook up with other girls as "rebound" however as i am insanly bad at picking up girls (the 4 girls that i have been with have all been picking me up and been verry forward and obvious about it) and i want to change this... in my current stage i am in the feeling that i dont want a gf couse it just end up in agony anyway but i do know deep inside that this will change later on.
however i want to see the side of life that i have "missed" during my time as a geek and in relationships.
My "main" problem when it comes to picking up girls is i cant read the signs, i hear from time to time after we been out at a nightclub / pub from my friends that the girl i was talking to was verry into me. but i had no clue... its first after i've gone home that i can go throu the evening in my head and go like "oh crap i got loads of ioi's why didn't i do something!?"...
my secondary problem would be opening sets i have quite alot of AA but i also know that if i can get in the mood where i see it as a fun game to open up girls. hell even beeing rejected can be part of the fun and at those times i got no problem whatsoever to open sets. but most of the time i got loads of AA wich i can usualy after pushing myself to open 2-3 sets get over and feel better (so this i have talked about this to my mates that i usually go out with and they have started helping me push throu it)
what are my strengths? well i'd have to say kissing first, pretty much every girl i kissed have said something like "damn your a really good kisser" and then they kinda just want to be kissing most of the time. so i just have to get to the point of the first kiss and the rest should work itself out fine.
my other strength would be that ones i get into a conversation i'm pretty good at keeping it going, jumping topics and stuff like that so i just have to go throu the opener and actually get the conversation started (or have a girl start a conversation with me
)so yea.. i guess thats my life in short pretty much.. can't really think of anything more SPAM but if i do i'll make sure to add it.
ps. on a note i live in a extreamly small town with only about 20k people so there is a saying "what you don't know about yourself everyone els does" and it basicly comes down to everyone knows everyone... this is the main problem for my AA, its hard to open a girl when as soon as you mention your name she will already know loads about you couse you have afew mutual friends and stuff, also that you in larger towns can go "well if i fail its no big deal i will most likly not meet this person again anyway".. you cant do that here its always the same people moving out and about... always the same group and it changes maby about 10 faces per year.. 10 people drops off and stops going out or move from the town or whatever, and 10 new people starts going out. so by opening up sets it wont take more than 2-3 months before you opened every single set in the town xD