Hey fellas, names mijo, I am a 25 yr old average frustrated chump. I lived most of my life in a shell, being antisocial not having my friends, etc. I dont know how I came to discover the pickup community aside from maybe typing in "picking up chicks" on google and going from there. It eventually led me to the game, neil strauss, mystery etc. Id like to relate a case to you, that I would greatly appreciate hearing as much comments on as possible. I hope the size of this post doesnt discourage anyone from offering advice
About a year ago to this day I joined a online dating website, hoping to find my match from there. I came upon this one girl that was pretty attractive. In one of her pictures she had a mma glove on, a short shirt, pursing her lips. I used that as an opporunity for an opener: Hey, I like your first pic, is it ass kicking time or something? " To which she replied: " lol , no im just interested in teh sport". Bam! I was in, or so I thought. Our first and only date was at a movie theatre. We first met up at a shopping center, stopped at a borders, got some coffee, and just b.s'd. During that time, while I dont remember exactly what we were saying, she eventually got comfortable enough around me to put my arms around her.
So we still had time before the movie started so we just went to my car joking some more.The kino got to a point where we were play punching, well she was punching me, I was parrying her, and then she decided to pull a fast one and try to land a good one on my jaw; I deflected and she smiled and said " " nice reflexes". Me: Yeah, its my spider powers, " She looked down at the ground and laughed.
Well we made our way to the theatre, and we decided to see the new shrek movie. It was dark, and the auditorium was virtually empty inside. So the movie started, and we stopped verbal and physical contact for a portion of the movie. I worked up the courage/confidence again,using the motto from the british special forces: " Who Dares, wins". I established verbal contact again. I said : " hey you got something right here, on your cheek". She asked what it was,and i told her to lean her head toward me and move closer, and thats when inserted a smooth peck on teh cheek. She smiled, i could swear she blushed, and not at all offended.There was nothing separating us, and I recall us being ever so closer. She whispered something to me, to which i pretended not to hear her, come closer. Of course I could hear her, but i took it as another oppurtunity to insert another smooth kiss, this time on her lips. This kiss was no only smoother, but alittle bit longer. Again she smiled, withdrew back, and started giggling to herself. I feeling confident,withdrew back and decided to hold back the fire fora alitte while longer. Towards the start of the climax of the movie, I just went for it. I thought about the other very few dates i had, how they wer boring, how i was a afc and didnt go for it. well that time was different. I went for it, and this time , it was a hell of alot more than a kiss, we actually started making out!! during freakin shrek!!!... I gently grabbed her head and both of my hands i turned her face towards me, and I just went for it. That was the first time. The second time, it was towards the climax of the movie, and it was ahella lot more passionate, with us toungue fucking each other, not to mention i was working my way on herneck, and then eventually down to her breasts!!...I couldnt beleive it, i was feeling like a pua almost.
The third time during the movie, we went at it one more time, except we were interupped by either pinnochio or the gingerbread man yelling chimichangas..it was a defining moment for us as this was OUR moment. I must say, it def felt like magic.. afc talk perhaps, but damn, this was alot farther then i gotten in al ong time. After the movie, it wasnt wham bam, thank you maam, we actually started running around the theatre, like abuncha kids, at he suggestion which thiking aobut now, was def a IOI. We were both laughing, and smiling, like kids... . So we edned up having some ice cream, talking, her sharing alot of more personal stuff towards me.She kept saying how its crazy that shes opening up towards me, shes never opened up to a guy like tha tbefore. Accoring to her anyways. So after the ice cream, we went back infront of the bookstore, talked some more, and well, we started making out again!!!.. tounge fucking each other so intesne that it was like a couple of leeches going at it. I kissed her boobs and neck again and again, which is quite obvious she was def into me. Now here comes the bad part. Even though we kept making out multuple times infront of our cars, I eventually had to let her go as I had my gay ass obliation to the national gaurd, for my annual two week drill. The timing as always was fucking terrible. But to top it al loff,a week after I left she had to go to boston on a business trip . We kept in touch for alittle bit through text messaging, however she had to give up her phone to her sister, and she acted as our go between for some time. Well it went from bad to worse, when she told me that her friend decided to pay her a surprise visit. There was a knot in my stomach, that felt like: " oh shit, this cant be good"
I dont know if this guy friend of hers was " the guy" or if it was some other guy that she ended up seeing, but the lowest point came when she emailed me on the dating site, saying to me that this guy she hadnt seen in three months, (before me) they had a connection and that " there was something there", she wasnt gonna lie. I replied oh, must be a difficult decision to make, me referring to her choosing beween that guy or me, though i didnt tel lher that. I was panicking and I displayed afc behabior by sending her messages saying if she missed me, etc etc... from that point, she never contacted me again, with an exception on myspace with just a simple hi stranger.
I couldnt responsd because for some reason her account blocked me from contacting her. So there you have it. I dont know if she ended up getting a boyfriend, she didnt wanna tlak to me anymore or whatever, but again.. .it really sucked. i displayed more afc behavior by sending her more txt messages asking if she missd me. After a few weeks of not hearing from her, I accepted what happend and I sent her one last text saying im dissapointed that cant see each other anymore, or something of the sort.
So a few months later, she messages ME on myspace, saying hey call me. She gave me her number, and well she got straight to the point, and said she had a dream about me and her being in the e.r. room or something as she was giving birth to MY baby. Im thinking, wtf?. We ended up talking some more, reliving our first date, but she eventually brought up that guy again, how she was with him, fiance or something. So i said, well if youre still with him, then why the hell are you telling me this.She said, I justw anted to share. Well I got pissed off, and said some stuff, and we ended it from there. Havnt spoken to her since. Whats worse is this text message that she sent me that night of our date when I had gotten home:
Sweet, well i wanted to say that i had a great time. ur cool to be around. U make me laugh which is very cool. I felt wanted tonight and that was an awesome feeling. Its crazy how the timing is off for us but we can only hope for the best and go with the flow. Its cool how you were able to see things the way i do and understand why i do. Not many do and i think that was very cool of you. I wish you didnt need to go and I wish i didnt need to go but as i said b 4 we can only hope for the best. I hope we can hang out more when i get back. But just o let you know even though my head hurts right now i am all smiles. Pinky promise.Felt great to be held and kissed. Great feeling knowing you wanted to kiss and hold me. Awesome awesome. well im here under the covers
.With a text like that, how the hell could i have failed???So thoughts, comments, advice???? What did i do good, what did i do wrong? was there a way I couldve used anchors so that i could secured my position and not soem other dude ended upw ith her? if for some reason our paths cross again, do you have any suggestions or courses of action i cuold take to re establish contact, secure a postioin, if you will? I was watching one of neil strauss's videos and he said something about how there are just some things that are out of your control, but I am writing to you now, because I am still compelled to find out.. wtf????
humbly yours, mijo