Hello.
This was the first link when i googled 'pick up artist.' I browsed for a few minutes and it seems like an intriguing forum, so why not join the party? Is everyone here U.K.?
I don't know what to say so I'll start with a profile. I'm a 28y/o from Oregon and my interests are snowy mountains, golf, travel... A scorpio, green eyes and i like long walks on the beach.
Searching out p.u.artistry now is sort of random, if you believe in random. I read the novel 'the game' when it came out; it was a good read and sparked a small interest in the sub-culture, but i never cared to involve myself. My friends and I loved the vh1 shows with Mystery for its hilarity and sweet acronyms.
I guess i've always respected the pua but didn't think it was for me because attraction has never been a problem. I guess i'm a decent looking 6'1" 180lb, and well not tall dark and handsome, getting girls interests isn't my big struggle. Between the ages 17-23 I dated/slept with quite a few gals with a few being extremely desirable.
During that period in my life I was confident enough to sleep with women who were attracted to me but wasn't a sandbagging ladies man. I accepted what was there and was happy. Amidst that period I found a mate and we had a rocky relationship for about 3 years. I felt ambivalent about the break-up and decided perhaps single life was for me.
Since then i have not had a serious relationship. I've had a few flings and a lot of long periods of nothing. I've been struggling with depression for about 5 years and for the past 9/mo have accepted my depression and take vitamins like prozac and celexa. I've stood strong on my bachelor mentality but feel as though i've created a road-block to getting close with women. Also my libido is just as strong as it's ever been.
My problem is getting close to women. Just to open with an example of my problems, about 3-4 weeks ago I was out and about and ran into a women who was attracted to me. The girl knew my sister and got my number to text me something like "i hope we can go out sometime." As far as looks go she def fit into my fuck or fold standards; idk a 7/10.
After our exchange of texts it was a lay-up(no pun intended). But... I did what has been my Achilles heel and didn't call or contact her again. Idk why other than I have such low self esteem. My subconscious comes into play and tells me that i am too poor, not worthy, or just to scared; perhaps too lazy. I don't know! I feel like a logical person but can't make sense of this. I've developed a closing phobia.
The only sexual contact i've had in the past 4/5 years has been 'like' drunken encounters that have been less than satisfying and have been so spread apart. Its hard going through such periods without sex; but even worse for me is missing that connection, physical contact, and affection.
I prob need a shrink but perhaps i can find some answers here. I enjoy learning so hopefully I came to the right place. I've matured to the point where you just learn to accept yourself . Fear is not in my vocabulary and i'm never hesitant to take the first step. I just need some help making sense of it all.
Does anyone here