Hello everyone. My name is minihifi, and I'm an AFC. I've always been one and thought for a long time that this is how it's going to stay. However, after spending a couple of weeks studying some of this pickup material I feel inspired and motivated and actually believe I can do something to change this aspect of my life. The purpose of this thread is mostly to get my own thoughts and ideas written down, to analyze them and to clear my head. Of course any and all comments are also very much appreciated.
To start things off, I'm going to write down a few things about my personal history and the current state of things. I'm 21 years old, I live by my self in Helsinki, Finland in a small apartment on the campus of the university where I study. (English is not my native language so please forgive me for some grammar errors.)
I think that my life is currently in pretty good order. I have my own crib, my studies are going well, I have a group of very close and reliable friends. I consider myself fairly good looking, maybe slightly above average on the attractiveness-scale. I work out regularily, I do boxing and play tennis, I play guitar in a kick-ass band and have generally a lot of great things going for me. But the "women&relationships" part of my life is still in the same condition as it was 10 years ago (if not worse).
I've never really been able to form any kind of relationships with women. The females in my life can probably be counted with the fingers in both hands, including my mother, sister and other relatives. My most intimate experiences with women are a couple of drunken makeout sessions and thats pretty much it. No holding hands, no passionate kisses, not to mention sex. Yes, I'm still a virgin which is somewhat of a chip on my shoulder, although recently I've been able to except it and try to move forward in life. I've tried to think of a reason for my lack of success in this area, but I've failed to come up with anything solid. It might be issues with my parents or it might be something else but I'm not going to get into it now. The priority right now is to start taking steps to the right direction in trying to fix this aspect of my life.
I stumbled upon this community of pick-up artists, seduction techniques and so forth about a year ago. My friend told me about Neil Strauss' "The Game", so I read it and got intrigued by the idea that I could actually learn this stuff on my own. So I read a few basic books but didn't really gravitate towards these techniques. I found it hard to picture myself in bars and clubs doing this pickup thing and sort of forgot about it for a while. Then about three weeks ago I happened to see the episode of "The Keys To The VIP" with Cajun in it. And it blew my mind. I was somehow able to relate to his style of being cool and confident and letting your body language do the wprk for you. I've never been a very vocal guy and I could totally see myself doing similar things he does. So I got excited and started looking into his methods and sort of found that spark of enthusiasm again.
So right now I'm starting to make conscious efforts to better myself not only with women but social relationships in general. I thought it would be a good idea to list a few goals so here I go:
Losing my virginity.
Getting better at social situations in general.
Meeting and socializing with different women.
Experiencing new things intellectually, spiritually and sexually.
Learning these new skills to the point where they come a natural part of my life.
Finding that "total ten" that David DeAngelo talks about.
These are not in any particular order, except the last one is more of a long term goal. Right now I don't really want to get in a serious relationship. I just want to work on these skills for a while and get new experience.
Phew, that's a lot of text. If you had the stamina to read through all of it, thank you, and please let me know what you think. I'm also going to make a journal thread and I'll post the link here as soon as it's done.
Again, thank you for reading and leave a comment if you like
Cheers,
minihifi