After 2 horrifying years.. What is wrong with me??? Anyhow, I joined today as a long time lurker and typically (during my two year relationship) had no use for PUA techniques.
Well I'm one month single and a bouncer at one of the hottest lounges in the city. Although I was in this job while dating my ex I never even considered what lay ahead (after the breakup) because guess what? I was 100% faithful ::pats self on back:: Which is a compliment to our gender considering the circumstances.
Anyhow, one whole week after the conclusion of a pretty tough breakup things are back in full swing. I'm standing in VIP already with one girl on my hip, suit/tie, and an old crush of mine from high school walks up to me. In high school we might have said two words to each other but I guess she felt compelled to approach because we're about an hour away from home, and it's a familiar face. We chat, the regular sh*t after not seeing a person for 6 yrs and I'll tell you this much, I'm not an ugly guy so this comes from a reliable source; this girl is a perfect 10, even without make-up.
I play it cool, for about 2 minutes and her friend (a friend/mutual coworker) calls her over so she excuses herself. I don't see her for the rest of the evening and I'm all like "Sh*t, should have gotten her num but whatever." (remembering friend/mutual coworker).
Very next day, not missing a beat she adds me on fb, message says:
Her: "It was really great seeing you last night (insert number). text me
" I wait a couple hours until I get off and text her:
Me: "now you have my num"
Her: "Damn, take you long enough."
Fast forward -- a whole week long of her texting "good morning" "good night" and some misc. sh*t in between.
I decide it's time to ask her out after telling me she was free on sat so I say "so we're on for sat?" no reply.... for a whole week.
She texts me "how are you" about a week ago. I text back "who is this?" she states her name and I don't reply. Later that night our mutual friend/coworker calls me over to the bar and says:
Mutual friend: "____ said you never texted her back today."
Me: (fumbling, purposely of course) "Uhm yea, I lost all my contacts."
Her: "uh huh yea right..."
Me: "And as a matter of fact, I believe she was the one that was ignoring me."
Fast forward next day. I text her:
Me: "Sorry mixed signals confuse me"
Her: "I wasn't trying to send mixed signals"
This is basically where we stand now.
Help??!