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I fell you there, man. I've had similar problems. Some of them are still there. I have yet to let it become my default behavior to go beyond my comfort zone properly. But there's good news as well. Actually your lack of motivation is a lack of neediness. You can turn around a few of those things and start being incredible. I've overridden my personal lack of motivation with pure will. I am telling myself every single day that I want this, that I really want to get good with women, even though it won't do much of a difference for me inside. I consider myself already a happy person and I don't really need women, but I want them. So you can transform your lack of motivation directly into lack of neediness.
Because you don't really need it, but you still want it, it creates an impression that you can have it anytime, you just choose not to. And that is attractive. Of course, if you want women, you still have to do some work. You can't expect that everything will come to you by itself.Don't worry when you're not the show all the time. Just yesterday when I was out, I wasn't really into everything and all. My buddy was kind of the social guy since he knew a bunch of the people in the club (long story, I'm not going into that). But I've talked to a couple of people and had fun. I even started working on a girl from that social circle, but I got interrupted (which I can hopefully continue on Saturday
). I eventually split off from my buddy's friends and had some time on my own. Just being independent and being able to actually able to have fun on your own will already do you good. You'll learn to get better and more fun bit by bit. Next time I get introduced to other people, I'll be a little bit more fun. This will accumulate over the weeks and months until I'll naturally be the life of the party with new people around. Telling yourself good things about yourself is a good thing, even if they are lies. You just shouldn't tell it around so much. I've never really talked to my buddies about the relationships I had or have (which are almost zero, BTW), but since I've become a social guy, my friends actually naturally assume that I'm getting girls relatively easily. It's not my words that go around, it's my body language. The good thing is that I can use that to my advantage. Because I already have good body language, I can make others believe that as well which includes the girls I'm trying to pick up.
BTW, when I started going to college, the MF ratio at my college was between 80:20 and 90:10. Don't worry about that. There are plenty of girls outside your college as well.
In any case, I wish you the best of luck. You can do it. You can fix your psychological problems and you can learn how to get girls.