Hey guys! Before I tell you about myself, I have to say that I have been reading posts on this forum for a couple months now before I decided to become a member of this awesome PUA forum! I will definitely be looking forward to post and read threads on this forum to improve myself and intereaction with beautiful women.
Background Information: I am 20 years old unemployed third year college student at small Deaf university (approx. 2500 students) in DC, Gallaudet University, who is very proud Deaf individual (emphasizes on the capital D to show pride--Deaf culture thing
). How did I become deaf, you ask? I was born profoundly deaf to hearing parents (hearing- those who can hear) but later discovered when I was about 3 years old and began wearing hearing aids (device in the ear that helps me hear). I communicate in ASL (American Sign Language) and I can also speak fairly well since I was "forced" with speech therapy growing up. Being deaf can be very difficult sometimes that I became somewhat insecure or unconfident to be able to approach strangers especially hearing people that I have to really try to hear to understand them but I can only understand about 40% of what hearing people are saying. I absoutely have no problem approaching deaf people because I have more confidence to be able to easily communicate with them but of course, I have this wrecking anxiousness when I have to approach beautiful deaf women on my college campus. I have to learn to stop letting my deafness to "interfere" my confidence to be able to communicate strangers in public places. Maybe you guys can help me work on that?How did I discover PUA community?: I was in the bookstore at the mall one day, and I found the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss in Relationship section. Curiousity has me skimp through the book and got interested with the book then bought it. As I was reading the book, I came to recall that I went to a club in DC with a friend one night last year, I was talking (signing, of course) to my friend and two of hearing tipsy HB8 saw us and approached us trying to speak to us but we couldn't what they were saying because the music was too loud and it was kinda dark to read their lips and to our surprise, they were finger spelling their name (I remember one of their name was Erin lol) and giggled. And we were being silly and finger spelled our names fast and they were like "whoa! what? slow down haha", My friend and I was kinda tipsy from pregame half hour before so we had a confidence to flirt and play with them but it was difficult to be able to continue to communicate so we just waved good bye then got parted. I recently brought it up to my friend that we should have gotten their numbers, instant date, bring them to our dorm for a drink, or something but communication was the problem and he agreed. I have to learn to improve how to be able to overcome AA (both hearing and deaf girls), communicate with hearing girls, body language, and to have some kind of sexual frame or aura that girls find irresistible.
I am embarrassed to mention that when I have this reputation of a guy who get really drunk at the party...get all horny and touchy feeling (very uncomfortable kino.. do I call this kino? i don't think it is, right?) with some girls and "begged" and desperate for a lay, often get kicked out, slapped, punched, and once had girl's AMOG friend threatened to beat up if that guy don't stop . I know you guys were thinking "this guy is fucking lame or sad and definitely won't get laid for a very long time--- DELV (Demonstrate Extremely Low Value) but I am trying to work on changing my reputation, learn how to build and increase my social value and try not to depend on alcohols to get rid of AA. I mentioned that I attend to small Deaf college where most people know each other and reputation/rumors of a person tend to spread around fast. Being a student in a small college, I will need to get rid a rep of a drunkard and be a guy who is social and well liked (if possible.. I know it will takes time to let people change their thoughts about me and start to like me as a person not the guy I was in the past).
PROBLEMS I HAVE:
COMMUNICATION
ANXIETY APPROACH
LOW SOCIAL VALUE
MY PAST DLV'S
BODY LANGUAGE (I don't want to be that guy who desperates to get laid and find a girlfriend)
BETA MALE BEHAVIORS
BEHAVIORS AT PARTIES
I will find out more problems I might have not recongize myself yet but you and I are here to help me to mold myself for the better, right?! We all want to be a better person and find a girl we desire. I figure that I have to work on myself first before I can game girls. I have a lot things to work on...
