hello there. joined the site after reading Stormy's post on frame control (freakin awesome btw), and i'm just here to try and gather the last few piece of the puzzle. i'll begin with as brief an introduction as i can give.
i guess i'm what you could call a "late bloomer." in a nutshell, i was a 1st generation korean american/overweight/gamer nerd. i was always pretty tall for my age (and race) so i wasn't really timid, but my ego was fragile as all hell which left me pretty shy in front of the pretty ladies. somewhere along the line i found that being the "nice guy" was one way to have a positive interaction with a female. as the one thing that i knew worked, i pretty much stuck with it all throughout HS/early college, got friend zoned many times and got more and more discouraged.
some time during junior year of getting my BS in engineering (yeah, there were pretty much no chicks in my classes by this point in the curriculum) i realized i was a fat slob playing video games and smoking pot w/ my buddies. i hopped on a fitness forum and transformed from a chubby kid to fit/muscular. after getting that part of my life back on track, so many other aspects of my life seemed to fall in place (except one). in terms of self-esteem, i would say it's pretty high. i consider myself a pretty handsome dude (now that i'm not a fat slob), i have a good job, good friends, i'm ambitious and am generally very well liked by people in my immediate social circles.
so the one last major hole in my self-esteem as i'm sure is the case with many others is my approach anxiety. spending so many years hiding in my room playing video games instead of chasing girls really hindered the development of that "thick skin" when it comes to interacting with girls and rejection.
so that's me, and i a bit of what i'm about and what i want to accomplish here. i plan on spending a lot of time perusing other stickies/threads to soak up some wisdom, but would definitely appreciate any personal stories/threads that anyone would want to recommend.
peace
