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I've been reading around these forums for a couple days now, trying to get pointers and stuff, and it seems like you guys know what you're talking about. So I'm just going to get straight to it.
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First thing is first. I don't want tips on how to pick up girls. I want to improve my confidence, self-esteem, natural vibe, and the lack of respect I receive from others. I believe if all this is top notch, the girls should be no problem.
You, sir, are on the right side of the railroad.Good job.
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I'll be 20 years old in September. I'm about 6'2, I'm shy(ish) and I'm pretty skinny. I've got lots of friends, BUT my problem is I feel that I am close to the "bottom feeder" of them all. I get NO respect from anyone, and I'm almost constantly getting ripped on. Growing up, all I've been told was "Just ignore them. Laugh it off." I've done nothing but that, but these guys just don't let up and it's really getting to me. It's effecting everything that I want to improve.
Been there man.Feed off the vibe. If they crack on you, crack back. It's not what you say, it's building on how it's said.
Ignore the words, focus on the vibe. Words are cars; talk to the driver.
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Confidence:
When I was in grade 9 or 10 I'd like to think I had a lot of confidence. I could talk to people and girls without a problem. Nowadays... I feel like I'm socially awkward. I'm usually one of the quietest people in the conversation, and I feel when I do add something, it's stupid and unnessacary. If someone new comes to talk to me, or someone I'm uncomfortable with, I literally blank out and don't know what to say which will follow with me saying something retarded.
Shut up.When I was in grade 9 or 10 I'd like to think I had a lot of confidence. I could talk to people and girls without a problem. Nowadays... I feel like I'm socially awkward. I'm usually one of the quietest people in the conversation, and I feel when I do add something, it's stupid and unnessacary. If someone new comes to talk to me, or someone I'm uncomfortable with, I literally blank out and don't know what to say which will follow with me saying something retarded.
The past is dead.
You're not awkward, you merely THINK you are.
Thinking is WRONG. Doing WORKS.
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Self-Esteem:
Again, when I was in high school, I could think of a MILLION things I loved about myself and what other people like about me. Nowadays... nothing. And I don't like to make excuses, but I really think it is because of my friends. I'm a sensitive person I guess, and since they constantly rip on me I get no positive feedback from anyone. So I guess I've made myself believe that I have no good aspects about myself.
Shut upAgain, when I was in high school, I could think of a MILLION things I loved about myself and what other people like about me. Nowadays... nothing. And I don't like to make excuses, but I really think it is because of my friends. I'm a sensitive person I guess, and since they constantly rip on me I get no positive feedback from anyone. So I guess I've made myself believe that I have no good aspects about myself.
The past is dead
You don't have low self esteem, you merely THINK you do.
Thinking is wrong. DOING WORKS.
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Natural Vibe:
You know when you are just looking around and you see someone and you just KNOW that he's an awesome dude? I don't have that. This could be because of my self-esteem but I feel that just the way that I sit, walk, AND talk, I give off this vibe that I'm the "inferior" person. Therefore, girls aren't interested, and I get disrespected from everyone.
...although this is rooted in the now;You know when you are just looking around and you see someone and you just KNOW that he's an awesome dude? I don't have that. This could be because of my self-esteem but I feel that just the way that I sit, walk, AND talk, I give off this vibe that I'm the "inferior" person. Therefore, girls aren't interested, and I get disrespected from everyone.
You are wrong.
You don't lack vibing skills, you merely THINK you do.
Thinking is wrong, DOING WORKS!!!!!
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Respect:
This is the NUMBER ONE thing I want. If you're a respected person, you are liked by everyone. No matter what you say, it's the right thing. No matter what you do, it's not stupid, it's funny.
To be respected, one must first demonstrate respectThis is the NUMBER ONE thing I want. If you're a respected person, you are liked by everyone. No matter what you say, it's the right thing. No matter what you do, it's not stupid, it's funny.
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I feel I am disrespected by everyone. By this I mean.. I get no props for anything. Basically what I'm saying is.. I could win a Stanley Cup and I would still be bad at hockey. I hope you guys know what I mean? Now, I'm not sitting here and demanding respect. I know you have to earn it, but the thing is I don't give ANYONE problems. I'm ALWAYS looking out for my bro's. I don't talk behind anyone's back. I don't complain to anyone, and I don't start shit with no one that doesn't deserve it. What the hell do I have to do to gain respect?
Shut the fuck up and stop beating yourself up.And you're not that righteous. You DID talk shit about someone, you ARE complaining right now, and you're trying to start shit right NOW.
Want respect? Show respect.
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My dad has always taught me, "Do onto others as you'd have them do onto you". It's a quote from the bible I guess, and it pretty much means.. treat people the way you want to be treated. I've based my life around this. I treat everyone with respect and I get none in return.
And your Dad is rightBut obviously you didn't listen. Tsk tsk.
The bible is a good book.
To have friends, one must be a friend.
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Help?:(
Two options:A) Buy a ticket to the Bronx Zoo, hide until it closes, sneak into the Lion cage, and punch the lion in the face, then face it, man to beast, and kill it with your bare hands, and bring it's skull to a nearby church, and throw it at the priest's face.
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B)Live in the now, let go of the past, forget the future, and shut the fuck up about your miseries.
Either way, you'll realize that neither the past or the future really matter; all is decided at that PRESENT MOMENT.
If you do decide to do A, just keep in mind a lion will only attack if it senses that you fear it.