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| Author: | anon78910 [ Sun Jan 24, 2010 11:55 pm ] |
| Post subject: | New Member, basically a 20 yr old virgin, long post. advice? |
I am 20 years old, and have only had sex once. this is sad because i am physically better looking than 95% of people, 6'3" 180, athletic build, good face hair eyes etc.. It is even more sad that I have been studying pick up for over a year now, but my game still is horrible (I have been shy my whole life) It also hard because most methods dont work on a college level other than having good natural game which is my problem. I have worked on my body language, posture, and feel very confident with clothing, appeal, everything until words actually come out of my mouth. I have social proof becasue I just got initiated into the most likely best fraternity on campus, whos parties are great. So the opportunities for me are incredible, but still basically a virgin other than that one time. I turn 21 in a few months. I have a soft voice and huge huge anxiety problems. I dont understand how some people always know what to say/have something to say. If i had an earpiece with someone shooting me the words to say, I think I would be unstoppable. But with college, you cant really have routines, especially since most of the girls that come to our parties/I see are in sororities and the word spreads quickly if I screw up, or come up as creepy for even one time (adds to the anxiety, its not one of the situations where i can say, so what its not like im ever gonna see her again). And because of my looks ( i dont wanna sound like im bragging becasue im not all into myself etc), girls notice me especially and they notice the fear and big time chump in me. Im known as the nice guy. And as weird as this sounds, i am more comfortable talking to most girls than the guys in my fraternity. I get anxious around them which makes the parties/life harder to enjoy. I am still anxious talking to my parents, family and everyone. I tried anxiety medication but they all cause lack of orgasms with me, and what good is hitting on girls without that, so the anxiety is not going to disappear until i see results, and become more confident and start getting laid. (I have gone through streaks where I made out with multiple girls in one week and feel confident then, the anxiety is less). There are times when i can appear very alpha male, and its weird that every once in a while, im not nervous, i always know what to say, and i feel great. If i could feel that way all the time, i dont know what i would do, but i would be the happiest guy alive. (i may be slightly bipolar, really dont know). People also love me when im drunk. I hear so many people say how i talk so much (in a good way), im funny and i never break stuff etc/make an idiot out of myself, i just get really happy and people notice this, especially girls. BUT, i dont wanna end up an alcoholic/ have dependence on it, becuase thats only a temporary solution, and is very unhealthy. Any advice, college party routines/game, college bar game(im a bad dancer). I wish i just knew what to say like other people do. Thanks for the time if you read this, any links that talk about college games/parties would be great. |
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| Author: | sevol_noitpecxe [ Mon Jan 25, 2010 2:10 am ] |
| Post subject: | ummm |
dude id only be able to one thing if ur a sociable person when drunk u can be when sober, read a ew mission on how to get over aproach anxiety and stuff u will be fine if ur a good looking lad you shoudlnt need to say a whole lot and someone will come over to u. i think you are reading into it to much, the word wont spread that much man most people in the frat will hear but apart from that i think u will be good |
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| Author: | BDK [ Mon Jan 25, 2010 3:53 am ] |
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Something that always helped me out was the idea that I should show love to everyone regardless of looks. I mean if your just making conversation with a 4 it doesn't mean your gonna do anything. This also means showing love to guys to. As time goes on you will get more accustomed to talking to people you practiced on ones who didn't really come off as threatening. |
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| Author: | MrBigSmile [ Mon Jan 25, 2010 6:29 am ] |
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Well I had the same thing going on when I was your age. There is no easy way to get rid of this. Only thing you can do is to expose yourself as much as possible. Go out and talk to people. As much as possible. This can be to any kind of people. Old people, the guy at the grocery store, your parents,... This is to only way to overcome your shyness as quick as possible. If you had a certain sitiuation, you're mind will learn how to deal with it. Your fear will go away. Don't focus to much on what to say in the begin. Just about anything should do. Eventually you will get more confident in order to do pick ups. |
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| Author: | Deee [ Mon Jan 25, 2010 6:53 am ] |
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hah! Now I don't feel like I need to introduce myself - you've just introduced me. I'm just like you. And the only thing that helps get rid of that fear - is to talk to people. Then reflect about what you just did. "What was good", "what wasn't", "what will I do next time instead". I'm trying that whenever I talk to a person. Hope it helped. You gave me inspiration so now I'm even more motivated to go out and practise my skills 
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