| PUA Forum https://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/ |
|
| my HB is my ex https://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=56132 |
Page 1 of 1 |
| Author: | hopesanddreams [ Thu Nov 19, 2009 4:25 am ] |
| Post subject: | my HB is my ex |
Alright boys! so I'm new to the community but I'm a fast learner, I read The Game, downloaded matt huston's (Ex)2 system, and it all seems to be working. I'm a little bit unsure as I'm in new territory, (though I don't want to call it foreign or enemy land). This woman is amazing and I acted like a total AFC and pussed out on her which sent her for the hills. Since I have broken off all contact and have been slowly working my way into sets and openings.with astounding success, (though no f-closes yet) the idea is she will be jealous and fear what she has lost yada yada yada. I got my first possitive contact from her in almost a month, she said she had dreamt about me the last two nights, and that "it was good to see you face again" (meaning in the dream). I called her after work (when I knew she would be at work) and of course she didn't answer, but quickly responded within the hour while still at work. We talked briefly, she asked how things were and of course I said good, and she prodded more so I told her more about new career opp.s which she said her friend was turned down for (DHV right?), and then I asked hw she was, and she said she was at work. I said "ok not a problem, I'll let you go" she seemed confused, I think it was by my optimistic voice. She said "OK?" and then I said bye and hung up. Did I play this right? Any advice on what has passed or what may happen? Help me out brothers, I'm in need. |
|
| Author: | BlueCassanova [ Thu Nov 19, 2009 6:35 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
I'd probably be a good, mutual person to give advice on this. As that's why I went back into the game months ago. Same thing, she called me up, "who are you?", my optimism, etc. However, I dont go back to ex's (I might bang them), but I never go back to the relationship, if it didnt work right to begin, it'll eventually escalate back to that point again. Understand that she will not recognize you. If you were like me, more timid, shy, agreeable, then she will be in for a surprise, as mine was, when i saw her again. PUAs radiate huge confidence, and it can be felt to everyone around. Go sarge all night, with great results, then run to your local walmart or whatever to buy something, everyone will feel your confidence and radiate. Fucked if I knew how, but it's true. But how you hung up wasn't done right. She had probably put aside a significant portion of time to really talk to you. Now, in her mind you are a) too busy to talk to her cuz of other girls or work or life, or b) that your feelings for her are no longer romantic "oh hey buddy what's up, ok, cool, well gotta go"...that's not what she needed to hear. If you did want to do that, pretend to get another phone call and say can we talk later or something. I'm assuming you want this girl, right? |
|
| Author: | hopesanddreams [ Thu Nov 19, 2009 5:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | |
Thanks for the reply blue, but I'm curious, you said she was looking to hear something else. I'm assuming it was more along the lines of "I miss you and come back to me" which of course is exactly what I wanted to say without sounding like a wuss. Any suggestions off the top of your head. I don't think I've blown the entire operation, but I do feel like I need to say something more. |
|
| Author: | BlueCassanova [ Thu Nov 19, 2009 9:10 pm ] |
| Post subject: | |
Quote: Thanks for the reply blue, but I'm curious, you said she was looking to hear something else. I'm assuming it was more along the lines of "I miss you and come back to me" which of course is exactly what I wanted to say without sounding like a wuss. Any suggestions off the top of your head. I don't think I've blown the entire operation, but I do feel like I need to say something more.
You are suffering from Oneitis, as I was with my ex, before going back in to the game. It happens to everyone, you can play forever and then bond, and get it, it really sucks and fogs up logical thinking.The fact that she randomly contacted you could mean she is hormonal and feeling emotional, and/or that you probably set a good comfort anchor in her, and she's replaying that back in her head. I wouldn't say that you completely fucked up, but if her tone of voice was mellow and vulnerable, it was most likely due to the above. You wanted to say "come back to me", but how well did you know her and how long? What phase did you leave in? If your heart is that set on her, I'd suggest texting her with fact/statement "I'm going to call you tonight...", but make her wait a little, don't call right at 7pm When she answers, listen to her tone of voice. If it's peppy, use your game. If it's laid back and mellow, be your comfortable self and be prepared to show vulnerability/frailty, but also strength (use stories about your emotional attachment to people you love, lost, and then how you would protect anything around you with force). If she flakes on you or acts distant, it's still not over, what you are talking about will still be at the back of her mind. But this one-month stuff has to stop, get out and understand that she might have some type of trait that really just makes you fall head over heels, but that's not the first - or last - time you will ever meet someone like that...so keep that in the back of your mind as a fail safe. |
|
| Author: | hopesanddreams [ Fri Nov 20, 2009 5:33 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
WORD! thank you Blue, your advice is much accepted and taken to heart. Where are you located? |
|
| Page 1 of 1 | All times are UTC |
| Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group http://www.phpbb.com/ |
|