Hello.
I am not new to the women scene. I'd like to think that I have been blessed with a certain amount of natural skills. My "score" is above 10 pre-game. I have had a long-term girlfriend as well as many flings. I, of course, am unsatisfied with this aspect of my life; otherwise, I wouldn't be here. But, here I am.
I've been driven by a belief in Karma. If you are a good person and do good things, good things will happen to you. If you are nice to a woman, do nice things, etc., she, in turn, will respect and appreciate you for it. Thus, women flock to kindness. After employing these beliefs my whole life, I have learned one very valuable fact:
Women don't give a shit about Karma.
To be honest, I have no interest in becoming a PUA. It's not that I'm uncomfortable with labels, and I certainly have no disdain toward people who refer to themselves as PUAs; I just don't plan on filling those shoes. It's the same principle as wanting to be good at, say, cooking. You read cook books and watch cooking shows, but you have no interest in becoming a cook or chef. You just want to learn a skill set to enrich your life.
I just want to learn a skill set to enrich my life.
The truth is, most of my experience with women has been with friends. I've never picked up a girl in a bar, nor have I had a one night stand. If I see a woman in a bar, and I like her, I most likely will not approach. It seems like the PUA skill set was designed to help guys like me.
I am an amazing person. My problem is that I don't know how to convey that to the women I want to be around (sexually or otherwise). I come off as shy, awkward, and "value-less". This has to change.
And it will.
I got into The Game by watching SinglesLife On Demand on my parents' TV (I don't have cable
). I watch some Style videos, and, a year later, I bought his book "The Game". I discovered this forum on accident and have been studying up ever since. Consider me about 3 weeks into studying. Also, I read a book called "The Complete Asshole's Guide To Handling Chicks", but I took the advice from it with a huge grain of salt. I have no desire to be an asshole. I want to be a nice guy still, but I also want to be great with women.Misc. Demographics:
Age - 23
Location - Bellingham, WA USA
Male (duh), Caucasian, 5'7, 180lbs, muscular build, clean cut (dirty blonde) hair
Things I need work on as of right now:
-AA (big time)
-Haphophobia (fear of touch / kino)
-Direct AND Indirect Game (using both)
Thank you for reading! Sorry about the long post
-Raven