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| Author: | GailWynand [ Mon Aug 31, 2009 5:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Some variety of downward spiral, looking for advice :) |
Hey guys, I'm 21, in my 2nd year of uni and am a recovering AFC. Just over a month ago I went on puatraining's residential course; spending most of my inheritance (sorry grandpa). I hadn't gamed before, and i didn't expect them to 'fix' me as such, however I did leave feeling much more at ease with myself and with a decent close rate at direct day game. So all was good. I decided that I would keep doing day game every day (although i have had a few days off) for the next month+ until uni starts again. I travelled round the country (england lol) gaming in different cities, in was very hard at 1st on my own in new places but i started getting there, and most of the AA left for a bit. Most days I just ended up doing a few approaches, but usually got some form of consent to stay in touch, be it a number or facebook (which I am beginning to loathe)... however my flake rate was rediculously high. In the whole month i only ever went on one day 2, and that was near the start. I know that i should be emotionally detached from the whole process, but i can't help whenever i get a girls number just hoping against hope that she will respond... and it doesn't happen... and every day the confidence i left the residential with seems to get chipped away at, and the AA is growing again. Where i used to be able to keep talking ad infinitum I now retreat inside my head and fidget and everything's getting worse. Every day i go out hoping that today will be THE day, where i finally get laid, or at least get a solid number. I know all the theory, and i know where i'm going wrong, and I can detect my mistakes even as i am making them, like a little man sitting helplessly in my head, peering cautiously out the window while the world outside burns. Regardless of how hard I try to fix the errors i feel like each time I get worse and my confidence plummets. I haven't even had the courage to approach for the last 3 days Is this normal? I can't believe its taking this long and all that happens is i get increasingly emotionally unhealthy. Has anybody had similar experiences, and do you know what i can do to break out of this downward spiral? I'd really appreciate any advice/comments you guys could give me, I'm at a bit of a loss... thanks. |
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