Old thread, but I might as well chime in.
I think I may have a mild form of autism/aspergers symptoms as well. I have never been diagnosed or visited a psychologist or anything, but I have done a fair amount of reading and the symptoms seem to match up for the most part.
My biggest thing is not being able to hold a good conversation unless it is with someone who is a great conversationalist themselves. I cannot lead a conversation to save my life unless it is something I'm interested in or have a lot to say about. (like work for instance) I get tense when talking to any strangers or with almost any one-on-one, across the table type of conversations. I start worrying about where I'm looking, what my facial expression is supposed to be, when I should make a move... I absolutely cannot pick up on the subtle cues/body language. (especially from women) I get the "huh?" face from others a lot of time after telling a joke I thought made sense. When I'm with groups of people, I often find myself totally in my head and realize I haven't said a thing for the past 10 minutes.
As far as having a deep interest in any one subject, that symptom does not really seem to fit me. It may be because of constant stress and having an extremely hectic lifestyle. I do however think I could start spending waayy to much time working on cars or learning computer programming or something if I did have any free time.
Even with all of this, I still force my self out to events, house parties, night clubs, etc which has seemed to help my conversation skills some. The problem is that those club skills (where I can be making out with an 8-9 on a loud dance floor - no joke) just do not seem to transfer over to real life AT ALL. I'm sure alcohol and being able to dance/move around plays a huge factor in the situation.
I have a good number of close friends I hang out with all the time, but acquaintances around work or my university are absolutely unheard of. Its like I just don't have the energy to hold up conversations when I can never think of anything to talk about other than the homework, traffic, or weather. I've never sat down to have lunch with a classmate or coworker since high school. I have been with a few girls, but none that I ever truly wanted to pursue, (too scared) but rather ones that aggressively showed their interest in me first and made the first moves.
Sorry for the novel, but I just wanted to share my experience and see if anyone else has any comments. If the OP is still around I would be interested to hear more about what you learned from The Game or any other books like that. I've read them, and they make sense at the time, but I cannot seem to retain anything I learn or put any of it to use. I just get overwhelmed by all the different techniques/methods.
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