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| Author: | kylep [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 1:25 am ] |
| Post subject: | Newbie to everything...need some advice please! |
Hi, I'm Kyle and my friend just told me about this site and the book "The Game" which eh said was awesome and helped him get a girlfriend. I am really shy and not good around women but work with a lot that I would like to get to know a lot better maybe even date. There's this one girl that I have liked for a while but we have never really hung out just her and I and I'm hoping after I read the book and post on this forum that I will be able to be comfortable with her. I'm just looking for some advice as to how to ask her to hang out and how to get her to be my girlfriend because we are already friends from work and we've worked together for a couple years. I know it won't happen instantly, but I'm just wondering where I can start, so I can get off on the right foot. By the with, is that book a good idea to read? Thanks for all your help! |
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| Author: | TMT [ Thu Mar 26, 2009 5:02 am ] |
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You sound like a really nice guy which is good, but not with girls. The first thing you need to do is to talk, talk, and talk some more to girls that way you'll be comfortable around them. That way you'll develop confidence which is one of the most important things, if not the most important thing with women. In order to create attraction with her you should be teasing her. Also, you should be staying busy and going on dates with other women. A good rule is to not date coworkers because it usually ends up bad, its usually best to wait until one of you two leave. As far as the game, yes thats a good book, it introduces you to life as a PUA but doesn't teach you that much about gaming girls. That's a brief brief summary, but you if you have any more questions just let me know. |
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| Author: | kylep [ Thu Mar 26, 2009 5:06 am ] |
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Thanks fro the advice and I just picked up that book actually and yeah it doesnt go into much detail but its good so far. So you mean like if i go downtown sometime or at work talk to all the girls and stuff like that?? |
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| Author: | TMT [ Thu Mar 26, 2009 4:08 pm ] |
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Yeah, just talk to more girls in general wherever you go since it sounds like your not totally comfortable around them... You wanna be at the point where your completely comfortable and confident around girls. You wanna tease them, use push pull, social proof, and DHV stories, which will make girls feel attraction for you. |
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| Author: | kylep [ Thu Mar 26, 2009 6:21 pm ] |
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alright thanks a lot and theres another situation that's come up actually between my last post and today...another girl at work was really really pissed at me cuz i lied to her and thats one of her pet peeves i guess, but anyways to make it up to her i bought 2 tickets fro the jonas brothers (ugh) in detroit in july and offered to pay because she loves them so much do you think this makes me have a better chance with her because she always tells other people at work that she'll only date guys 25 or older and shes 20...well i'm 19 so i'm thinking we are already close in age and friends from work do you think i can break that mindset that she has or what? Thanks again. |
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| Author: | Angelz [ Thu Mar 26, 2009 7:36 pm ] |
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hey, am not a real expert in this but yh i think you can break this mindset. What girls say are not necessarily what they want. The best thing for you to do is to act more experinced... this is why she thinks she wants someone older. By experienced i dont mean someone who is wise and intelligent or anything. Just act like you kno your way around the world and girls, show her your confident with women - you can handle them easily and they're not really a problem for you. As for buying the tickets... not sure about that - makes you look slightly needy. But since you did buy the tickets go along with it but make sure its the best night of her life. Make it fun and make sure you enjoy it. Hope this helps. |
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| Author: | TMT [ Thu Mar 26, 2009 7:45 pm ] |
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Yeah buying her something is really not a good idea. First of all, its a waste of money, and second of all it shows that you have to use money to make women attracted which is not the vibe you wanna send off. But seeing that you already bought tickets, tell her its a one time thing and that she is paying for gas ha. |
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| Author: | kylep [ Thu Mar 26, 2009 7:47 pm ] |
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haha damnit alright the only real reason i did it was because it was the only thing i could think of for her to not be pissed at me cuz i tried talking to her and nothing...ill make her drive to the concert i guess haha thanks |
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| Author: | kylep [ Fri Mar 27, 2009 7:06 am ] |
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not sure if i post this here under this topic but whatever...i know dating girls at work is probably a bad idea but I'm thinking I could use it as a way to get more comfortable with girls considering they are all different ages, etc. I'm going to my work tomorrow actually with my friend to see these two girls who asked us to coem, but they seem to like my friend, who I introduced to them, more than me or at least they show him more attention probably because he never shuts up and is better with women. What can i do to divert their attention to me, we are already friends from work and I think doing this will help me overcome my anxiety towards talking to women. Thanks for the help, and if this in the wrong section, I'm sorry in advance. |
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| Author: | TMT [ Mon Mar 30, 2009 5:37 am ] |
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First of all, cut out sorry from the vocabulary, just doesnt resonate well with women. As for how to act, go in with some canned negs and material if that helps you act more comfortable. Store it under a text message and you can look at it if you forget anything. Here's the big one though, 93% of conversation is through body language, so make sure you have good posture and act confident. If your friend is talking the whole time he'll come of as needy and if you get the girls to laugh a few times then they'll pay more attention to you. If the girl spills her drink bust on her for it and say how are you a waitress... basically just playfully tease her. That should help some |
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