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Author:  noob_hacker [ Thu Jan 01, 2009 1:28 am ]
Post subject:  18 no gf no prom date
Hey whats up. im ej im 18 and i got in the game or at least im trying to get in the game because my dating life is pathetic. Like i said im 18 and ive never had a gf and have few female friends. I just recently bought the book The Game and did some researching and saw how much of the things ive seen ive already used without knowing it was game. So the only thing i guess to do know is to man up and say it to those hot chicks i see at the mall, the library, etc. but how? So to sum it all up my goals is to have a gf and hopefully take someone to prom. Im not ugly or anything im just really really shy.

and im from pdx
Author:  The-Hatter [ Thu Jan 01, 2009 1:41 am ]
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Don't worry about trying to approach 9's and 10's. Just start smalltalk with strangers, ask the time, your watched stopped and you can't quite figure out how to change it. Ask if someone knows where something is. With these interactions your confidence and social skills will skyrocket.

At the end of the day, you have two choices. You can continue down the road your on, wondering what could have been, waiting for something to happen.. OR you can fuck that right off out the window and take control. The journey of becoming the best you can be has to be your decision. It's a realisation.
Author:  _Manna_ [ Thu Jan 01, 2009 5:40 am ]
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Don't worry about trying to approach 9's and 10's. Just start smalltalk with strangers, ask the time, your watched stopped and you can't quite figure out how to change it. Ask if someone knows where something is. With these interactions your confidence and social skills will skyrocket.

At the end of the day, you have two choices. You can continue down the road your on, wondering what could have been, waiting for something to happen.. OR you can fuck that right off out the window and take control. The journey of becoming the best you can be has to be your decision. It's a realisation.
Exactly. Make sure to do the first thing he said, it gets you acquainted with not getting rejected, and like he said, boosts your confidence
Author:  noob_hacker [ Thu Jan 01, 2009 7:32 am ]
Post subject:  thank you
thanks a lot for your input. Really makes me feel like i can do this lol. I really like your ideas. But to me it feels akward to just go up and ask them something then leave
Author:  The-Hatter [ Thu Jan 01, 2009 7:48 am ]
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make it your goal to just go out and ask one person the time. It's a tiny goal, but a goal nonetheless. When you fullfill it you'll also get a boost of self confidence. You realise that if you set out to do something you can achieve it. It's what the mindset is all about.

Chances are even if you are nervous and show it people are definitely not going to give you shit, (unless they're real pricks, in which case they don't deserve your time anyway) I can guarantee you this. You can sit on a computer and what if all day, but until you get out there and start doing this stuff your achieving nothing. Release that charismatic suave character inside you
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Author:  shazzbott [ Thu Jan 01, 2009 7:57 am ]
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Hey bro,
welcome to to the forum, as far as your post.. don't feel like its pathetic that you havn't had much of a social life with girls. Everyone needs time to get comfortable with themselves and then with others. My advice to you is listen to what the guys above are saying.
1. Get out there (start talking to new people at school, guys girls who ever)
2. When you get comfortable with yourself, go ahead and ask someone on a date or to the prom. I always over thought the whole i need a date and there is no way i can just go up and ask her. Fuck that, just realize that you control what goes on in your life and if you are going to ask a girl to the prom or go on a date, then she should be stoked about it becuase your that awesome of a person.
3. Don't feel bad if it doesn't work out the first time, just keep at it and you will find out what works for you and what does not.

Overall stay positive and confident. If anything I hope this helped a little, Good Luck.
Author:  GQute [ Thu Jan 01, 2009 8:00 am ]
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ej,

I'm a freshman in college now and i was shy partially through high school. But what you realize in your upcoming months, when your last days of high school are winding down, is that you will NEVER see half those people again. It may seem depressing but it is also an opportunity to grow. When you keep in mind that you won't see certain people again, you can use them as an opportunity to experiment with your new found (or convincingly faked) confidence. If you C&B, so what? Do a debrief, figure out what you did wrong and use what you learn for the future.

Now some specific advice for your situation. Proms take time for preparation. Some guys will start asking girls nearly two months in advance to lock them in and take them off the market. This only works for certain couples and you may want to try to be a little more patient. However, don't wait too long or you will be scrambling to find someone that hasn't already been asked. In a high school scenario, if you have a solid friendship with a girl they almost never will turn you down unless they have someone else that they are sure will ask them, that they have had their sights on for a while. Also pay attention to your targets friends, if they start paying a little more attention to you, they are probably scouting out whether you are qualified to take their friend... MAKE them believe you're qualified (because no hs girl makes a decision without the backing of her friends).

One last thing, use discretion in determining whether you want to try starting a relationship at this point. Couple of months and everyone will part ways for college, and long distance relationships generally don't work. But that's your judgement to make.

Hope this helps,
~GQute
Author:  noob_hacker [ Thu Jan 01, 2009 10:11 am ]
Post subject:  wow thanks a lot
Hey you guys thanks a lot for the input. Ima keep in mind what you guys are telling me next time i see a hot chick at the mall or when im partners with that cute chick in ap english lol btw Happy New Year to you all. I hope i will overcome my flaw with your guys' great tips
Author:  soviet [ Sat Jan 03, 2009 5:21 am ]
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all you got to do is realize that people are happy to talk to you.
everyone thinks at one point or another "what if they tell me to f$*k off?"
or "why would they want to talk to me at all??"
start by asking a simple question "whats the time?" as suggested by "The-Hatter". everyone will tell you.
once your confidence is up ask open ended questions "hey guys i'm new around here, any ideas on what are some good cafes to go to?"
guaranteed 80% of people will talk to you for over 1 minute.

remember: "no one learns how to run before learning how to crawl and walk."

- Soviet.
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