I don't want to double post (I'm sure you guys don't want me to either!) but if anyone could give me a few hints and / or feedback from ^^ it would be nice
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| Author: | Lentouri [ Sun Nov 16, 2008 5:21 am ] |
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Hello. I am Lentouri, and I have major problems meeting women, mostly approach anxiety (which I believe you guys shorten to AA - it's gonna take a while to process all these acronyms). I am quite short (5"8) and not particularly well built, and my issues with this have led to a decreased self-worth, more specifically not feeling good enough, or deserving of a good looking woman. I am from a tall family, and have a lot of tall friends. Possibly due to society and Hollywoods general motto that a taller man is better than a shorter man, the height difference, which is significant in some cases, means I always feel inferior around them. Don't get me wrong, I am not overly insecure, I am sociable and interact well with males and females, but my problems with approaching women undoubtably stem from my belief than I am somehow less of a man than my taller friends. I have had a few girlfriends, but they have always come about by the girl making the move (usually when it was clear we were both into each other but I lacked the courage to make a move). I have no problem flirting with girlfriends of friends, or girls I have no interest in, probably because I know they aren't going to just think I'm trying to get into their pants. I'm not sure how good I am at flirting, but thats a different matter! A lot of people who know me would probably describe me as confident, but this appears to be limited to people I already know, my confidence level drops dramatically when I don't know the people I am interacting with (but rises when I have consumed a large amount of alcohol). This is probably an inherited trait from my mother, who is permanently worried about what other people think of her. Which sucks. I also get hit with an insecurity when I know a girl I like likes me back. I'm not sure what to do, or how to make a move, or whether they actually like me, and about five hundred other things. Too much detail I think, but I'm also not very confident sexually. I should also add I am 21, and a student, although I am in my final year there are plenty of girls around to practise on, the last thing I want to do is not really bother with this till I leave College and then regret it when I am a PUA and am no longer surrounded by hot students. I'm a good looking lad, and besides the height insecurity, I think I have a lot of the raw materials needed to make a big change such as this (think Kosmo when he started in TPuA). Can anyone guide me through my first steps? Summary for TL;DR Short student insecure about height Confident around friends, not with strangers Needs guidance |
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| Author: | Lentouri [ Mon Nov 17, 2008 2:06 am ] |
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I don't want to double post (I'm sure you guys don't want me to either!) but if anyone could give me a few hints and / or feedback from ^^ it would be nice
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| Author: | white_knight [ Mon Nov 17, 2008 3:11 am ] |
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It seems like you know yourself pretty well and are a smart guy. There's lots of things on this site that you can utilize, but i would first and foremost start with destroying that approach anxiety. You probably get your approach anxiety from being shorter than most, but make your height your strength. Go out at your school and start making conversation and flirting with women that you don't know, but OWN IT. Stand up straight, walk casually, keep eye contact, speak with a purpose, and KNOW that they are priveledged to have your attention. good luck |
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