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| Author: | Future24 [ Tue Oct 14, 2008 10:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Noob here, checking in with some questions |
I'm loving the forum. Great tips and everything. Can't wait to learn to pick up girls, but my ultimate goal is to get this girl to like me. Cliffs on said girl: -Bestfriends 2 years ago -Liked me a year ago -I started dating a girl for 11 months(who went on to cheat on me twice) -It's been 4 months since me and ex broke up -Went to a concert 3 weeks after break with the girl I like now -Not much progress since then... -Biggest thing: Girl has the WORST luck with guys and has gotten fucked over numerous times but continues to want a boyfriend My biggest troubles are talking to her and getting her to hang out with me. Any tips on that? and any tips at all on how to get her to like me or get her would be appreciated. |
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| Author: | Plethora [ Wed Oct 15, 2008 1:31 am ] |
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Does she live near you? Do you see her daily? Where? Do you have mutual friends? Does she know you like her? Does she give you indicators of interest any more? How would you describe a typical conversation with her? Are you the 'nice guy' type that is there to support her and give her advice? How often do you talk? Can you ring her up any time without awkwardness? |
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| Author: | Future24 [ Wed Oct 15, 2008 1:49 am ] |
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Quote: Does she live near you?
Do you see her daily? Where? Do you have mutual friends? Does she know you like her? Does she give you indicators of interest any more? How would you describe a typical conversation with her? Are you the 'nice guy' type that is there to support her and give her advice? How often do you talk? Can you ring her up any time without awkwardness? She lives like 15 mins away. We go to school together so yeah I see her 2 or 3 times a day. Ehh some but I don't talk to them that much. I told her about 3 months ago, havent talked much since. No indicators that i notice. We usually talk about music, thats about all I can ever talk to her about otherwise convo dies quick. I'm probably a nice guy, but trying to change that into a PUA. We talk about once a week. |
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| Author: | Plethora [ Wed Oct 15, 2008 2:19 am ] |
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Hmm, it seems like you are in a tough spot. Luckily it doesn't look like you two are very good friends, although you have a history together. You have a case of what we call 'oneitis' meaning that you have an unfounded attraction that persists. You have to learn what emotions serve you and what don't. This particular 'crush' emotion served you in the time of tribal existence where there were few possible mates. When a new, interesting, and attractive female entered the tribe it was in your best interest to pursue that. In today's existence there are thousands of suitable mates that we see every week, and this emotion is only there to hinder us. You must realize that she is not some perfect creature that you need in your life, and it is just your mind tricking you. The map is not the territory. The good news is that you are not good friends, and even better do not have mutual friends. This means that you can lay it on the line with nothing to fear. The anxiety that does present itself is again an unwanted emotion that only served us during tribal existence. If you tell her outright that "I really like you and I want to see you outside of school. I'm going to the mall tomorrow after school, you should come with me (or whatever)," then you have no reason to fear rejection. The best advice I could give would be to approach other women and practice your game (sarge) as much as possible. This will help you get over this girl and at the same time make you a better person. You will be more comfortable, confident, appear more alpha. In the eyes of other women, including this one, you will be more attractive. After a few months and at least a few successes, reflect to see if this one girl is really all that important. I guarantee she will seem less so than she did before. If she is really worth it then use your new-found confidence and inner game to bring her into your world. |
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| Author: | Future24 [ Wed Oct 15, 2008 2:29 am ] |
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Thanks I'll definitely have to practice that's for sure. I use to like this girl for 6 months before finding my ex, then as soon me and my ex were done I wanted this girl again. Seems like I'm building her up as something big for no reason. But I'll def have to practice sarging. |
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