How's it going?
I'm a 25 (26 next month) year old from New Jersey, although I usually play in NYC. I first found out about the PUA community a few years ago, when I stumbled upon David DeAngelo through his posts on askmen[dot]com. I bought and read Double Your Dating and put into practice some of his techniques. They worked pretty well. In the first month of law school I slept with 2 different women (I had only been with one 1 in the preceding 22 years of being alive), unfortunately, instead of progressing, I got scared and started a three year relationship with the second one which has erased the small improvements I had made. That relationship ended a few months ago and I realize I need to make a major changes in my life. I allowed my ex to walk all over me during our relationship, which basically reduced my self-confidence to zero.
The past few months were a mix of depression and frustration from an inability to meet new women or when I actually did meet someone the inability to close. (Example: last weekend, I was introduced to someone through a friend, we were drinking together and I thought she was into me [she told my friend, she wanted to sleep with me], anyway, after the bar we got food and made it back to her place and she looks at her phone and goes what happened to [your friend], my hook-up is coming by). I have no idea what I did, but realized I am clearly doing something very wrong. So, I have begun reading The Game by Neil Strauss. I found this forum because I got a message on okcupid from a random HB that said "Your so cute lol Just wanted to tell you that." My first reaction was oh god zeddwell don't fuck this up. So I did what any lawyer worth his weight in salt would do and googled how to respond. I found a thread on these forums discussing lines to use in response. After some thought, I responded with "And together we'd be so sexy. Just wanted to tell you that.
" She responded by giving me her number and telling me to text her some time. Again my first thought was oh god, don't fuck this up. Here I am for advice.Sorry for the detour, back on track now. I'll wrap this up. I have no idea what method I am partial to; I am still very, very new to this. I have no practice, even when I see women give me the "please, come talk to me eyes" I am too nervous to actually do it. So, some of my hobbies include sports (Yankees and Giants), music (house and trance), fishing (I went tarpon fishing this summer in Boca Grand and was instantly hooked) and snowboarding. My goals in life are to make partner at a law firm, eventually get married, althought I don't want that to happen for at least 5 years (I would be in my early 30s at that point) and then start having kids shortly after marrying. My short term goal is to drastically increase my self-confidence; I hate myself for being such a AFC when I know on paper I shouldn't be.
So thats it. The too long; didn't read version is as follows: Recently out of a 3 yr. relationship that destroyed my self-confidence. I know I need to make major changes in my life. Please help me reclaim the self-confidence I know I should have.
Nice meeting everyone and thanks in advance!