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Author:  rjny [ Sat Oct 26, 2013 6:16 pm ]
Post subject:  I lost my mojo!

Hello PUA!
My name is Rob and I had recently found this site after googling "sexual tension techniques" when I was watching some pandora's box system on youtube. haha.

Anyway, I think telling you guys my current issue and how I got to it, regarding picking-up women, would be an appropriate way for me to get adjusted to the forum and hopefully I can learn something new!

Nonetheless, I will begin. As I said before my name is Rob and I live in NY, I am 20 years old and Puerto Rican. When I was in high school I was quite the player, so to speak. I was in great shape, I played football, baseball and participated in wrestling. I would go to the gym religiously and was confident in how I looked and was not afraid to show it. I knew everyone and used to get all the girls in high school; however, I think it is important to mention that I was and am today, respectful to women. I don't want to come off as some pimpin' high school jock. It is also important to mention that my life was not always like that in high school. When I originally made it to high school, i had recently moved and was new to the school; therefore initially I didn't have any friends nor the body until sophomore year.

Moving on, after I graduated high school I had gone to college in the city, which is completely different from going to a SUNY which is where everyone in high school had pretty much gone. I had gone to an art school in the city and it was like the beginning of high school all over again. I knew no one and the people were very much different. There wasn't much partying, many of the students were foreign and some were homosexual (I am not homophobic). This was a different SPAM for me and my days consisted of me only doing homework and projects and less socializing because I didn't know anyone.
Eventually, I found that I was going to the gym less and my diet had changed as well. While attending school in the city I was staying with my grandmother and she ate strictly organic foods, which was a change for me as I mostly ate fattening/heavy foods before. Ultimately, by the time I had finished my associates in graphic design at this school I had slimed down to 150 lbs when I had previously weighed 185 lbs when I first entered the school.

As time had gone on I had gradually began to start giving up on social networking sites as well. All the people that I had known in high school began to either forget about me or just didn't find me interesting anymore. When I hang out with my closest friends that I knew from high school they look at me like I am some type of sick, dying patient because I lost so much weight and muscle.

I spent this last summer in a state of depression. I didn't go outside much and I didn't talk to many people either, except those who were very close to me. I felt like I lost everything, I was mad at the world and hated myself for letting myself fall into the position I'm in.

Fast forward to today, I am currently a transfer student at a SUNY and studying communications and media. I had chosen to attend a SUNY in attempts to regain the social aspect of my human being. One might argue that we all poses the social aspect and I totally agree. However, due to my lack of social exposure I had become almost frightened to speak to people, especially women. As I type this story today I should say that it is not as severe as before; however, when it comes to approaching the opposite sex I feel like a fool all of the time. I always become subconscious because I begin to think that no female would be interested in me because I don't have the body I had before nor do I have many friends at this new university. So basically I just avoid talking to women all around. Before when I used to see a cute girl I would approach her with ease. Now, I always second guess my chances and just hide in my shell.

So here I am today telling you my sob story. Basically I am in a state of mind where I tell myself I don't have the proper credentials to talk to women anymore. My thinking is that I don't have the body nor am I known socially, therefore I automatically assume she thinks I am a loser or a nobody.

What I am here for is feedback and advice, as well as brutal constructive criticism. What steps should I take for future progress. Is having a great body a game changer? Do I need to be popular just to have a chance? How do I get my mojo back?

I'd greatly appreciate anyone's opinion, positive or negative. Its nice to meet you all and thank you for listening!

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