PUA Forum :: Hi and where to start for someone without a life?

Hello everyone,
I'm a 22-year-old, pretty much your cliché "forever alone" guy who pretty much has no life outside his 4 walls and work/now university in another city.
Keeping things short: I'm socially awkward, don't have friends and never had anything with a girl (not in general anything beyond work- or school-colleague let alone anything relationship wise)

Is it even worth considering my background to start with PUA right now, or is it pretty much worthless and I should first "get a life"?
I suspect it's the latter but I'd really prefer if it's the former of course ^^

I read more stuff by now and got a bit more into it (opened a field report thread for my reports).
Something that really worries me though - how for gods sake should I play the sexually confident man when I'm a virgin, and, what frightens me more: I never kissed, so I'm kinda not comfortable making it "out of the blue" without preparation, or what's best in that situation?
Then, something else I didn't found anywhere for some weird reason (searching for the wrong stuff) - I by now have a slight idea about opening and building rapport, but how do I get from the opener to the "normal" conversation stuff?

Well, thanks for your answer, but I think you didn't get my point.
I understand that I have to get from the Opener to normal conversation, but how do I get rid of the opener stuff and start with conversation? I did find stuff about how to do conversation, about how to open, but not about that IMHO extremely difficult transition from the opener to conversation.

Author:	Soaw [ Tue Apr 30, 2013 8:22 pm ]
Post subject:	Hi and where to start for someone without a life?
Hello everyone, I'm a 22-year-old, pretty much your cliché "forever alone" guy who pretty much has no life outside his 4 walls and work/now university in another city. Keeping things short: I'm socially awkward, don't have friends and never had anything with a girl (not in general anything beyond work- or school-colleague let alone anything relationship wise) Is it even worth considering my background to start with PUA right now, or is it pretty much worthless and I should first "get a life"? I suspect it's the latter but I'd really prefer if it's the former of course ^^

Author:	Jay (Majik) [ Tue Apr 30, 2013 10:01 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Hi and where to start for someone without a life?
Quote: Hello everyone, I'm a 22-year-old, pretty much your cliché "forever alone" guy who pretty much has no life outside his 4 walls and work/now university in another city. Keeping things short: I'm socially awkward, don't have friends and never had anything with a girl (not in general anything beyond work- or school-colleague let alone anything relationship wise) Is it even worth considering my background to start with PUA right now, or is it pretty much worthless and I should first "get a life"? I suspect it's the latter but I'd really prefer if it's the former of course ^^ Developing PUA skills will allow you to build a better life for yourself. The idea behind pick up is that you are a high value man (fake it until you make it). Even if you do fake it, people will begin to treat you as a high value man. As humans, we tend to jump into the role that society gives us. Act high value, become high value. Perception is reality.

Author:	Soaw [ Thu May 02, 2013 7:11 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Hi and where to start for someone without a life?
I read more stuff by now and got a bit more into it (opened a field report thread for my reports). Something that really worries me though - how for gods sake should I play the sexually confident man when I'm a virgin, and, what frightens me more: I never kissed, so I'm kinda not comfortable making it "out of the blue" without preparation, or what's best in that situation? Then, something else I didn't found anywhere for some weird reason (searching for the wrong stuff) - I by now have a slight idea about opening and building rapport, but how do I get from the opener to the "normal" conversation stuff?

Author:	Jay (Majik) [ Thu May 02, 2013 7:23 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Hi and where to start for someone without a life?
Quote: I read more stuff by now and got a bit more into it (opened a field report thread for my reports). Something that really worries me though - how for gods sake should I play the sexually confident man when I'm a virgin, and, what frightens me more: I never kissed, so I'm kinda not comfortable making it "out of the blue" without preparation, or what's best in that situation? Then, something else I didn't found anywhere for some weird reason (searching for the wrong stuff) - I by now have a slight idea about opening and building rapport, but how do I get from the opener to the "normal" conversation stuff? Maybe this will help you http://themajikalmethod.com/welcome-to- ... versation/ Kissing is part of kino escalating properly. Once you have her comfortable with you touching her, a kiss will seem natural. My rule of thumb is if she is comfortable with you touching her face, you can kiss her.

Author:	Soaw [ Thu May 02, 2013 8:15 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Hi and where to start for someone without a life?
Well, thanks for your answer, but I think you didn't get my point. I understand that I have to get from the Opener to normal conversation, but how do I get rid of the opener stuff and start with conversation? I did find stuff about how to do conversation, about how to open, but not about that IMHO extremely difficult transition from the opener to conversation.

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Author:	Jay (Majik) [ Thu May 02, 2013 8:50 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Hi and where to start for someone without a life?
Quote: Well, thanks for your answer, but I think you didn't get my point. I understand that I have to get from the Opener to normal conversation, but how do I get rid of the opener stuff and start with conversation? I did find stuff about how to do conversation, about how to open, but not about that IMHO extremely difficult transition from the opener to conversation. Most people don't care about how topics are related to each other as long as they are entertained. Girls like talking about things like -Gender differences (use people watching to bring up these topics) -Music and Pop Culture -The unknown (weird spells and shit) Do some research about those topics and talk about them. It's just developing "the gift of gab" and knowing how to talk about anything. Watch Curb Your Enthusiasm and pay attention to Larry David. The guy can fuckin talk about anything. Just make it funny and playful. Don't talk about anything creepy or gross or weird like how the smell of asparagus hits your urine within minutes of eating it or some shit lol

Author:	Soaw [ Sat May 18, 2013 9:02 pm ]
Post subject:	Random Facts
Random Facts about me. At the age of 12 I made my first attempt of suicide. No one cared. In middle school (7th to 9th grade) I was bullied for 3 years straight, had no friends and neither my mother nor the teachers supported me (they basically supported the bullies). During the three years of middle school I got myself a new personality, and I barely spoke to anyone in this time (most things, especially related to my true self or feelings, were used against me). Since then I also am very careful and almost paranoid about what I say and do in the presence of complete strangers (e.g. on the street). I'm the only child in my family. Since the age of 11 I'm teaching myself programming languages and software engineering; Most of my free time went into this. A passion of mine I can't currently live is acting. It took me until 9th grade to realize that a thing called "going out" exists and that it's popular. It took me until second year in high school that "festivals"/"open air festivals" existed and how important music is to most people (never visited one until today). I became a platoon leader in the Swiss Armed Forces (In the Airforce for Anti Air Artillery; 35mm artillery cannons). 300m shooting with the swiss army assault rifle is another passion of mine I still live at home (not for long anymore) My parents are divorced and separated; I live with my mother which is an incredibly unbearable human being. Constant insults, ridicule and negativity is what I hear all day. I've got two cats, and a third neighbor cat visits often. I'm currently at the university studying computer sciences and work part-time as a software developer/maintainer. I rarely ever had to work for school until high school (according to IQ tests I'm among the 5% most intelligent). I never learned what it meant to work for an achievement which made my time in high school pretty hard and still is a problem for me until today.

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