Hello guys,
It was about 5-6 years ago when I started gaming and when I did it, I did it 24/7. For over a year I tried nearly every method known to mankind. I sarged tons of women, but eventually got seriously annoyed by meeting randoms in bars, clubs and other venues, whom that I had no real connection with. Eventually I found THE WOMAN, that one-itis I dreamed of
This may sound weird, but I really wanted a woman to spend my life with... Well, I found her, we even got a kid together... Long story short, shit went down the crapper and 3 months ago we separated. We're still in good, civilized relationship and I get to see my kid every day - so far, so good...Thing is, due to a long run depression caused by my not-so-happy relationship, I let myself go - I'm fat, my closet is crap (I literally have 2 pairs of jeans and these are all my pants!), my health isn't that great and my social circle is nowhere to be found! Sounds pretty bad, right?
Thing is, I don't care even a bit for this. I have a great natural game when I'm feeling right, I used to do indirect things, like social dynamics and a whole bunch of Mystery tricks, but found it eventually to be very frustrating and energy consuming. Eventually I read a great LR from some guy that was explaining his direct approach miraculously - it was a game changer. One of the greatest discoveries was a book called "Mode One" by Alan Roger Currie (look it up on YouTube, there's a fine video explaining what its all about). It really changed the way I look at the whole game situation. Basically, for me, its mostly about confidence...
Anyway, I wanted to share with you what I'm going through and what I'm planning to do and possibly get some feedback from the community. So here's the list:
1. Get myself in shape - drop cigarettes (which is kinda sad, cause they helped me a lot when opening with "do you have a light" or "can I have a cigarette", also allowed me to kiss smokers without puking in my mouth)
2. Work on my libido - this means almost no jerking off
The point of this is to get myself in a real sexual state, to be able to really want women (right now, I just don't feel like it). I advise myself to jerk off, just before I reach the point of no return, the stop. Rinse and repeat for 7 times in total. This really gets me worked up and wanting to have the real thing.3. Visit the thrift shop - I'm quite good a dressing, but for some reason I really lack the desire to make myself look good. I'm running low on cash lately, so I'm going to do my best with the second-hand things I can find - have proper looks makes the game much easier
4. Find a Social circle - this one is a toughy, because I really can't find any good spots in my town nowadays. I'm thinking about joining some salsa clubs, because I know that they really lack male dance partners, which is good, on the other hand, I'm afraid that I'm just going to waste time and get friend-zoned by way too many girls altogether. One of the things that worries me, that I really can't jump from girl to girl in such a situation, not more than once at least, without making a bad name for myself. However I always remember the saying "girls have other female friends, that you may meet if you stick around long enough", so I'm still considering this - maybe not try to catch the fishies in the tank, but rather focus on their friends when opportunity arises - either way, I'm really not desperate to fuck, I'm not needy at all, so that's a good thing
I'm really not worried about content, I do get AA every first approach (e.g. I get AA with the first hot chick I open, but the rest of the night goes without it, so I'm just ignoring it and going with it - it usually takes about 10-15 minutes for my body temperature to go down and my palms to stop sweating).
What I miss the most is motivation, because I really think I know the 3 types of women and I thought I found exactly the woman I wanted. Now, I really don't know what to want from the opposite sex. I'm a relationship kind of guy, I can sarge like a motherfucker, but I'm really not a man-whore. In fact, I'd rather skip on sex, if I don't have a connection with the woman.
So please, if you can give me good tips on how to get back my desire for women, it would be much appreciated. I really need this to work well, because I'm experiencing a shitty type of one-itis, where I don't want to be with my ex, but she is still in my head. I just want to move on with my life and be able to focus on the important stuff, like work, my daughter and living the good life.
Thank you for reading this! Any feedback will be much appreciated
P.S> To prove that I'm no newb, I'll tell you this - to not waste my efforts in learning how to pick-up women, I compensated by picking up girls alongside my ex and having threesomes now and then - it was pretty awesome, in fact, we even had a female lover for about an year - pretty cool for a fat guy, eh?