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Author:  GazzMonkey [ Fri Dec 28, 2012 6:20 am ]
Post subject:  Appoach anxiety
Hey guys, I went out today and I really hit a brick wall.
Today I went to the shops and I was aiming for my first pickup. I was creating convorsation with people who work in the shops, but I wasnt cold approaching or apporaching any person. I found this really frustrating and I saw plenty of people but the oportunities were going away so fast and I kept pussying out.
How can I get over this fast
Author:  Pickwick [ Fri Dec 28, 2012 8:22 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Appoach anxiety
Welcome GazzMonkey. Just getting out of your house and trying is already a good step. Read up on the forums and remember that you WILL have to actually approach people, you WILL fail, and you WILL get over that hump. If you were trying to do your first approach, I take it that you're fairly new.

Look at the newbie mission and I suggest you try it out.

the-newbie-mission-vt41556.html

Once again welcome and hope you find what you're looking for :twisted:
Author:  White Lion [ Fri Dec 28, 2012 8:42 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Appoach anxiety
Quote:
Hey guys, I went out today and I really hit a brick wall.
Today I went to the shops and I was aiming for my first pickup. I was creating convorsation with people who work in the shops, but I wasnt cold approaching or apporaching any person. I found this really frustrating and I saw plenty of people but the oportunities were going away so fast and I kept pussying out.
How can I get over this fast
Fast way?

Accept that the feeling of Anxiety is just butterflies. Everyone gets it. The nervous energy is a release to get you MOTIVATED to approach.

This is your reframe. Anxiety is your bodys reaction to force you to help yourself. So act on it.

Get present. Concentrate not on what you are about to do, but on how you feel. Focus on your toes, wiggle them. Feel that they are their. Get your mind off of the approach.

Have a short stack to get you from Open to Qualify to fall back on. Go up to every girl and open the same way. Make it autopilot.

Open:
"Hey. Do you know where I can find starbucks? They have the best coffee."

Transition/Attraction:
"You arn't one of those starbucks junkies, are you?"
"Yes you are! I bet you cant wait to get your next fix."

Catch my drift? A simple stack that seems situational. This is how I run ALL my sets. I go into the venue, think up an impromptu stack, then use it as a crutch as needed. I very seldomly need it, but the fact I have it makes all the difference.
Author:  GazzMonkey [ Fri Dec 28, 2012 11:11 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Appoach anxiety
thank you guys, yeah I am new to the game, I've been studying it for a few months but not taken any proper action apart from trying to chat up a few friends but thats not going anywhere.
I will comeback with an update next time I go out and try to pickup, I'm thinking tommorow is a good day :)
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