Just to say it is a great pleasure introducing myself to the forum.
Here's my history:
I am 19 years old, a Christadelphian (look it up), currently living in the UK, and hoping to go to University this October.
Cut a long story short, I have had extremely limited success with women, zero relationships, no sex and no kissing either. Growing up with Christian parents it has been hard to stand out from the crowd as somebody with slightly different morals, and so perhaps this has been a factor in my lack of game.
My struggles with the opposite sex really hit me when I was at a boys school for 5 years (between age 11 and 16), as girls were not around me all the time, thus making my comfort zone restricted to conversation with the same sex. Luckily there was a girls school nearby, but me and my quirky and socially inferior friends barely got past asking girls out, and during that time, most of them blew me out/stood me up.
When I move to 6th form college (high school), I had plans to be socially better and develop better connections with girls. Unfortunately early on I was very anxious/insecure/shy, and my communication was restricted to classmates, and very few girls, for the entire two years. The two years of me spending too much time alone to relieve my anxiety gave me almost zero social success.
One of the major problems I am facing, is that I want a relationship, a proper connection with a women, and then once that happens I can get married and then have sexual intercoarse. This is how it is, I want to learn these skills in a way that is pleasing to God.
Now back the the story, in 2011 I join university, with emphasis on improving my communication with girls, and almost no emphasis on Christianity. It turns out that I did communicate with people very well during the first week or so, but as time went by, I found it very hard to properly fit in, whilst other social groups were becoming strong. My loneliness & also depression got to me, and I left after about a term.
Due to my struggles in the past, I really want to improve my success with women, such as conversing, socialising, getting to know women and attract the right sort of women (christian women), whilst also improving my social skills with people that I do or don't know.
I would like a relationship with somebody that is within my sector of christianity (christadelphians), and there are many girls/women out there that I can easily meet and converse with, and there are many girls that I already know from Christian social events (e.g. a Facebook "friend") who I might consider relationships with.
So that's my story, I hope that you guys can give me some advice on my journey to my success with women.
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