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| Author: | drownedx [ Fri Jun 15, 2012 6:21 am ] |
| Post subject: | stepping out |
Hi all. Just a another hopeless hopefull stopping by to say hi. I am a 27 year old English guy currently living in China, yes I am a virgin. I have only two stories of note, though the people here have probably seen it all before. AGE 15 This was the first time I met a girl that I had taken a liking too. Being of the geeky type I knew nothing about social skills in general let alone girls. I was not about to let that stop me however. I kept my distance at first, she became quite flirty but I mainted my distance. After a while I relented and agreed to see her to go for a movie. To cut a long story short for the next 7 years I was firmly in the friend zone. With all her whining about all these guys that dont treat her well. Cue entry of ex army guy. Naturally he got what he wanted in a short time. Of course I was jealous but kept my mouth shut. He spent all his time talking bad of me. After some time he dumped a me or him choice on her, she choose him. I never heard from her again for a while untill one day she came to telling me how he had cheated on her with anohter guy ( seriously). By this time I had enough and told her to shut up and go away. She started going to clubs and things, eventually I relutantly agreed to go with her, most likely she wanted me to play gooseberry. Well she kissed me, me being the idiot I am had no idea what to do to follow up. The oppurnity passed right over me. She made some new friends (guys) that took an irk towards me and before long there were rumours that I hit her ( including her telling such things). I continued to go clubs with them hoping to met a girl of my own, of course I usually ended the night in some corner somewhere before stopping the night at my sisters. It all came to a head one night when enough was enough. I preceded to (uncharacteriscally for me) get violent and beat on a few of these guys. Then took my rage to the bouncers. I grew up being seriously bullied I learned how to fight dirty. I am also quite quick on my feet so I dissapeared sharpish when the oppurtunity arose. Soon enough that town became out of bounds as a was labelled a women beating, drug addicted child stalker. Age 27. Still alone, my very supportive sister had died at 35 along with most of my pets and my auntie and some family members were told they had cancer. I became rather fed up. I went to Prague to do a TEFL and after 300 ingnored applications to Japan I accepted a EFL job in China, as you do. I was not expecting anything I just wanted to get out of the UK, I spent my time studying Chinese and working not much else to due when you are not in a Major part of China and cant speak Chinese. Cue girl number 2. Again I had no expectations and was not attracted to her, but she was a nice girl for the most part. I just spend my time meeting with her once a week getting the occasional bit of help just trying to survive here. Some months she started to touch me etc I thought nothing of it. She came down mine one day but was tired from work so I said she could lie on my bed. Having nothing else to do I just lied on the bed next to her. Cuddling and fondling ensued. Then she told me about a guy that had that as far as it sounded like to me was stalking her. Telling me about how he said he loved her etc. I just laughed and said he was a liar and that he probably had other girls in the mean time. Turns out I was right but of course he had some lines for that. I told her I was not interested in hearing it and just made fun of her for being so gullible. On the way out she just grabbed me and kissed me, then afterwards kept saying, friend, friend friend. The next day she apologised for the kiss and said she shoudl not have done it. I just shrugged it off, I did not care. The next week she came down again, the bed again. This time she ate my face off. Then she started the like a borther thing etc etc. I just told her to shut up and ate her face off then put my hands down her pants. There was no objection. She started making odd requests like asking me to write love letters and the like, for the most part I stupidly complied. Then she started talking about , how she let me go further than this guy who has only ever got a peck on the lips, how she wanted me to meet her friends and father then onto language difficulties and culture etc etc, I told her to shut up, I am a big boy I can learn how things are, and we made out again. The next time I saw her was in public places, there was no touchy stuff. Nothing unexpected there, it is just not the done thing in Chinese culture. A disaster happened at work that made her quite upset, she had a fight with odd stalker guy. I sent her an encouragin message each day and after a while I went to see her, and she was most definalty cold. She called everything to a screeching halt, with lets just be friends. I stupidly told her that hurt and she just laughed, she stopped though when she realised I was not joking. Remembering the other story I said no chance you do that and I will say goodbye, we cant be friends, that did upset her a little but she called me out on it and told me to go, I chickend out and stayed. I spent a little more time with her, she insisted on buying me food and other assorted things much to my constant protests. Then we sat in a public place. She resumed the touchy stuff going as far as playing with my hair and removing bits off my lips. Then off she went again about how her father would never accept a foreigner, aksed me if I minded that no matter where I went people stare and point at me ( I told her I dont care). She asked me if I would wait for her, again stupidity arose and I said yes. All thorugh this she kept asking about that letter she wanted me to write ( which I had wrote and is now sitting in a draw) The bus came, she offered me money for the bus which I flat out refused and got on the bus fast enough not to allowed her to do it. Later on the Chinese IM thing she started talking to me. Again with the lets be friends stuff. I sent a few replies but did not say much. She became upset again and said she did not know what to do and was wanted to cry. Stupidly I became worried about her and was sending messages. She said everything was her fault and she hurt me and strange stalker guy and how she doe not know what to do. More lets just be friends stuff. She said she did not want to lose me and asked if I was going to go away. She was already asking this but up untill this point I was cryptic with my answers ( I was saying you will but not so obviously). Being concerned at this point she would do something stupid I said no you will not lose me. Along come more friends stuff in stronger bursts. From that point she has not spoken to me or came seeking me as much as she had done in the past. She asks about the letter that still sits in my drawer that I have no intention of ever showing her. She spoke a few lines with me today and then went offline something she has never done, it is normally the whole day when she speaks to me. AFter that I have delted her number from my phone and have decided to ignore her on this IM program. That letter will forever gather dust. Well rather lenghty I know, but those are my two, you guys have probably seen it all before stories. AFter the recent one I said to myself enough of this shit, I need to do something or I will be a virgin forever. Two days later I found this site. I hope to find a treasure trove of information that will help, along with studying this frigging language so I may be able to talk to people at large rather the occasional person I chance along that knows English. You may now commence you flaming and mockery! Peace out! |
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