Hi. I'm 27, and a physics graduate student living near Des Moines IA.
OK, right to it, my goals are: A. being authentic, carefree, and fun B. having cool, easy-going, open-minded, close friends, C. enjoying the company of women, and D-Z. getting laid. Eventually I want a long-term relationship, but want the adventure and variety that's supposed to come before it too.
I heard about the community by reading The Game. My age and lack of success have made this a high-priority item. This is summer for change. I'm prepared to hit the DSM night club scene every weekend. Haven't been in this long. I have no "stack" or material, or past experiences to build on. I did go out the past two weekends though:
1st night: Went to Liars, a stylish, but sleezy club in downtown DSM. I was overcome by approach anxiety. I circled the club, visited the bathroom, and then sat by the bar. Shortly thereafter I got chewed out by some douche whose seat I "stole". Discouraged, I left. Shit night.
And next weekend: Better. I worked myself into an upbeat, blithe, "whatever" sort of mindset. But I could hardly stop MOVING. It was guerrilla approaches on altogether 12-14 groups (over 2 nights/40 min). I didn't know any material, so I threw out random comments ("is there a band playing inside there? ... you girls don't look country ... hey, if your going up to the bar, buy me my drink ... you don't want to go to that club 'cuz you can see the lights are on.") With a smile!. I only get dismissed by 1-2 sets, but I ejected within 1-3 min of the others when my word bank went empty.
It's a start. Those nights were to say "I'm doing this. I'm committed." And I I am. I would love if I could find someone to wing with me. It's hard to push yourself, and get feedback, and share and have fun w/o a wingman. (Anyone in DSM?)
P.S. My hobbies are martial arts (tkd), waxing philosophical, Game of Thrones (now); and collecting hobbies, seriously
Any comments or feedback would be a booster. Thanks guys.