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| Author: | NightSky [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 10:00 am ] |
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ok. I started out with the 30 day approach anxiety buster routine. I'm gonna start posting my results guys. Any feedback is fucking-loved! Cheers mates!day 1 walked for 30 minutes today guys. Saw almost a dozen girls i'd have liked to approach. waved at one across the street and she totally ignored me! That fucked me up pretty bad. So my whole fucking day was ruined. i feel helpless. Am i ruined guys? 
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| Author: | herrn [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 2:29 pm ] |
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off course youre not ruined. I done the same thing many times. its part of the fun, just look at her and realize shes booring or shy..whatever, its not your problem anyways 
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 2:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Approach anxiety extreme |
Quote: . Am i ruined guys?
Get back on your horse and RIDE!Don't just try to open hot girls, open ALL of them! I can't stress enough how much this helps, opening girls YOU would have nothing to do with, is a huge ego boost! |
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| Author: | Lockdown [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 3:41 pm ] |
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Dude she might not even have known she was waving at you! Might not feel like it but you had good results today! How? You have feedback and know that you might do things differently next time. Getting out and doing it is better than just reading about it  so props!
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| Author: | NightSky [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 3:53 pm ] |
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Thanx everybody. I'll be back tomorrow with day 2. P.S...I'm underage so, gotta play by day game. Any pointers or material that could help? Cheers.. |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 4:03 pm ] |
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Quote: Any pointers or material that could help?
Hang out at a store, in the men's body spray area; ask the 1st HB that passes through; "My bro asked me to pick him up some spray; I'm going to prank him a little, witch one of these smells horrible to you? LOL? They ALWAYS have an opinion!
Cheers.. |
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| Author: | $hane [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 4:06 pm ] |
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Hey bro, Well congrats to acknowledging that you have AA. Well for what i did to overcome what i had towards AA. ( not saying that i dont still have some AA, all in clubs cuz i am not comfortable there i dont go enough) Anyways, i used to have a big AA when i was just out and about.. so what i did was like everyone says, i waved and said hi or smiled or talked to everyone that i saw that was good looking. But what they dont tell you is that your GOING to get shot down a bunch. the trick is to not let the shot downs effect you. i did this by saying to myself "oh she is not worthy of my time" or "her loss" or "shes on her period" So what i am saying is just tell yourself its on her and not what you did. Good Luck my Man |
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| Author: | NightSky [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 4:32 pm ] |
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Thanx on the heads-up Heywood. And yep. I think I'll get shot down quiet a bit. Coz I was and still am shy. I devoured The mystery method, magic bullets, the art of seduction, forbidden patterns, double your dating and a whole lot of R.J's books. The problem is I can't go out on the field to SUCCESSFULLY apply it. Coz I can't get over the whole approach thin first. 
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| Author: | FCgame [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 4:40 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Approach anxiety extreme |
Quote: ok. I started out with the 30 day approach anxiety buster routine. I'm gonna start posting my results guys. Any feedback is fucking-loved! Cheers mates!day 1
That's completely normal, it hapens quite a lot specially when you are starting.Don't beat yourself up just give yourself time, this things TAKE TIME and there is no rush ok. walked for 30 minutes today guys. Saw almost a dozen girls i'd have liked to approach. waved at one across the street and she totally ignored me! That fucked me up pretty bad. So my whole fucking day was ruined. i feel helpless. Am i ruined guys? I've worked with a lot of people who had severe cases of aa and with these lame exercices, time and practice the overcame that fear. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gbjRPDVW ... O9-nziDuU= Just one last thing, it doesn't matter how much experience you have, how many girls you have approached aa in a way stills there, you just learn how to control it |
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| Author: | NightSky [ Wed Apr 11, 2012 4:54 am ] |
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Thanks 4 all the feedback guys. I'm going out now. Wish me luck and leave your tips. |
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| Author: | NightSky [ Wed Apr 11, 2012 11:28 am ] |
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well,today was a total faliure compared to yesterday. I couldn't muster up the courage to even approach any set. I go out. I see a girl. I decide to approach. AND THEN I FREEZE. Yesterday was good compared to this. Maybe it was coz i was hanging out with my buddies yesterday. Any inspiration and tips welcome. |
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| Author: | herrn [ Wed Apr 11, 2012 11:47 am ] |
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maaan. dont take it this serious. This is a good way if your a bit scared of contacting and dont wanna put yourself all out there. When you approach, do it more like it was unplanned and looks spontanous, like it dont means nothing..like the actual goal is not important, there is no goal with it. youre going to a bench to sit down and..oh there "happend" to be a girl next to you that you did "not notice" before..say hi. Theres nothing wrong with beeing polite and conversate. if she shrugs you off, shes obviously the weird one who cant talk to a person. Youre standing by the shoppingwindow..watching..and ooh a girl "happend" to walk by.. say hi! what do you think about that pair of socks right there? or say wow can you tell me how they get that toilet so shiny? Youre going to the store to buy paper to whipe your ass...oh there "happend" to be a girl there..say hi, this paper is making me bleed, which one do you use? Well maybe not the last one, but you get the point. This way youre just a nice person talking to others persons, no hidden messages (they think), no nothing. Nothing special at all. So you have done nothing to deserve a brutal rejection and cant get hurt by one eaither. If the conversation flows, keep going then you round it off, cause off course you need to go somewhere, and draw your phone fast like a gun and tells her that she should put her number in so you could do this again, watching shopping windows or whatever you did. If she says no you just say ok. bye! and walk off for your arrends(which happens to be the next girl coming down the street;)) Got a bit carried away. Maybe you have your own way. Just wanting to help anyways 
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| Author: | NikAFC [ Wed Apr 11, 2012 11:51 am ] |
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Make your goal for them to reject/ignore you. If you go up to a women and your goal is just to be a dickhead so she could reject you it's not going to be a worry for you. You need to realise that you are not going to open sets cause you want to close them. You only need to learn one canned opener that you can keep in the back of your head and use it if can't think of anything situational. Or you could just go up to any women you spot something interesting in and make a quick comment about it. For example you see a women in a red dress you go up to her and say: "I like your dress it really suits you." That's it and go to the next one. It's important to understand that you're always gonna have AA. It will never go away. It's like the stupid thing that you can't get rid of. Openers are irrelevent once you have confidence to approach though. So it's going to be really good for you if you start doing it. |
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| Author: | NightSky [ Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:32 pm ] |
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The problem is I'm not able to approach anyway. Even talking to a girl bugs me. (But checking her out doesn't, as long as she doesn't notice - perv) Thatz why this is called approach anxiety EXTREME! Anything to help me out?
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| Author: | herrn [ Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:44 pm ] |
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Quote: The problem is I'm not able to approach anyway. Even talking to a girl bugs me. (But checking her out doesn't, as long as she doesn't notice
But youre gutsy! you did it anyways!- perv) Thatz why this is called approach anxiety EXTREME! Anything to help me out?Let me ask you, why and what are you so afraid of? its just a person like you, like your friend, like the person behind the counter in the store. All with their own fears, their own problems and probobly most of them are really shy like you.. |
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