Hey guys, sorry if i write too much here, i just wanna introduce myself and get your opinions on a few things!!
I've been interested in this kind of stuff for a while but never really looked into it. I started studying body language a few years ago and found that PUA are the bomb at this!! Which in turn has got me into this whole scene. Anyway, looking forward to learning any new body language tips/advice/ material you guys can offer.
So anyway, I never really tried to use non -verbal communication (ill just say NVC from now..dont get it confused with North Vietnamese Communist..) in REAL life up until now (ive just started, been having a go at it for about 5sh weeks now, its pretty cool!). Most of my experience has been, say, like watching reality shows on tv, trying to pick up on all the NVCs etc, problem was it gets kinda boring, like i started thinking "now i kinda know what to look out for, i wanna try this, see if i can try have an entire conversation in NVC with a girl who is sitting out of talking range, if you get what i mean...(one thing i've been doing this week is catching a girls eye as im walking down a busy street and holding her gaze until she breaks or looking to the side if it gets too uncomfortable, could hardly keep a straight face the first few times i tried it
)THIS SCENARIO(below), GO CRAZY, tell me what you think, im sure youse guys are all experts
So i just want to give you guys a scenario thats occured a a few times recently over the past month, just to see what you all think: Theres this girl who is in a few of my classes at uni, shes really the only girl in a class of about 12 of us (post grads). Anyway, im new to these papers but the rest of the class have been together, roughly, for about 4 and a bit years, they all know each other well, so im the new guy:P
So i started picking up on IOIs ( i've kinda started to look out for them, looking for 3 or more is a bit hard for me SPAM, anyone else have difficulty at first?). She had never talked to me, but called out to me by name and held a gaze and asked me to switch on some things (i did but only because i was standing right next to the display). After class i was walking down the hall and she came out of no where behind me and asked me something about my shoes ( i couldnt really understand her so i just laughed and said "oh yea theyre great", i think shes maybe the nervous awkward type..or maybe not) and then just walked off infront of me. SO im thinking "is this girl shit testing me?".
I started sitting against the wall started to take up more space than i needed in class and now she sits behind me (well next to the chair behind me, so she can check me out, right?
), and i always notice TWO things. Truthfully i think there are more( its hard to pay attention and look back during a lecture ..), but these two i am curious about, they ALWAYS happen: The first is i have a chair that i sit on, and with the desk next to me i use THAT chair as a foot rest (trying to take a space right?). I notice atleast two or three times during a lecture than one leg will be crossed over the other with the foot of the leg ontop always like, swinging... Not like kicking, just the foot by itself swinging, but neither feet are angled at me, theyre just point straight ahead( from what i can see anyway, there were a few times they could have been but my perf vision is ave)The second thing that happens (it always plays out like this), she'll stretch that leg out and rest her foot on the chair leg. This would seem normal, BUT she is probably the only one in the class i almost NEVER talk to, esp. during class. I'm kind of doing this on purpose too(for value), its the same on campus if i run into people from the classes i take and shes there, i dont even look at her ( i dont know if this is a good idea? ) and i know she notices it because i randomly turned to her to ask her a question the other day, i tried to make it natural but she seemed quite awkward, like "oh! your talking to me?".
So any thoughts on the sit and advice to esculate would be good. Like i said, im pretty green at this stuff but i've kinda been looking into it since the start of the year. I dont want to make this a one night thing also, i genuinly want to get to know this girl, but i only see her maybe 4 or 5 hours a week, i think this is why things have gone so slow.