Heyo guys,
I'm a 22 year old single male from Oost-Vlaanderen. I currently work in the security sector (diplomatic division).
How did I come on the idea of joining a PUAforum? A colleague at work and I were discussing women (or my lack of one) and he mentioned "The Game". I started to read it and the more I read it, the more my eyes openend up. There are other guys out there with the same problems as me? I'm not alone?
I have no methods at all. When going out, I will never initiate a conversation with a women I don't know. I tend to overthink everything (How do I look, I'll look ridiculous, I won't know what to say, ...). I tried any tips my friends suggested : get drunk (even then, I will chicken out - the little voice in my head that tells me I'll fail never seems to shut up), just say random things, letting a friend initiate and then not joining in, ...
What am I hoping to get out of this community? Increasing my social skills, growing a pair and having the nerve to actually initiate a conversation (not even with the aim of getting a number, just a simple conversation). The weird part is, once I meet someone due to some coincidence and I end up getting a number / facebook, I always know what to say - guess it's a lot easier to talk to women from behind a screen. Another weird habit of mine : when at work, I will talk to anybody about anything. A person wanting to enter the perimeter but doesn't have permission? I'll have no problem telling them they can't enter and why (even when it's a girlfriend of a known basketballer who was a perfect 10). I just can't seem to flip the switch in my 'normal' life..
Due to my work, I don't have a lot of hobbies anymore - I used to play fieldhockey and regulary go to the gym (talking to guys = no problem, women = I just choke).
I have to admit, it feels good to finally be able to tell someone about this and who knows, maybe some people here had the same problems and overcome them. If so, I am looking forward to talking to you!
Have a nice evening/day (depending on where you are in the world when you read this :p),
Spinoisje