PUA Forum :: Ive been trying this for like 7 years

i spent so long trying to be one of those "i like dancing and clubbing and party type guys." but i just never enjoy it.

i also want to hear others opinions on whether all girls want out-there alpha type males or if its just mainstream girls or clubbin type girls.

do we all have to be these extreme party animals in order to get attractive girls?

and what is attractive anyway? isnt that pretty much a "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" situation? i mean yeah i like very skinny punk\alternative\grungy\goth girls. although i can see a mainstream girl with a nice body and want to have sex with her, id never really bother because she wouldnt get me, and i usually find mainstream girls uninteresting. then again alternative type girls are usually crazy. i guess what im asking here is, is it ok to have a specific type that you find physically attractive and focus on that?

i mean i feel like i dont want to have a relationship with someone unless they are really skinny and alternative. but i hear so often that focussing on the physical is shallow and not the right way to find love. but i cant help it, its like the girl has to pass the skinny and good aesthetic taste test before i can even care about their personality. is that normal?

Author:	nathore [ Fri Jan 13, 2012 3:54 am ]
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Hi im Nathan, im on here because i would like some straight answers to my questions. Ive slept with a few women in my time. im 29 have probably slept with about 30 or so women, most of which i thought were physically very hot. although most crazy and not relationship worthy. the trouble is i have gone through alot of psychological confusion because of alot of this PUA stuff. i spent so long trying to be one of those "i like dancing and clubbing and party type guys." but i just never enjoy it. i feel overwhelmed and then bored in those situations, no matter how many times i try. i read a book about the introvert\extrovert differences. it basically said that extroverts brains release seratonin and dopeamine around crowds and full on social situations. introverts brains release their pleasure chemicals in quiet times and therefore dont psychologically enjoy the situations that are often (not always) emphasized in the PUA community. i also want to hear others opinions on whether all girls want out-there alpha type males or if its just mainstream girls or clubbin type girls. i have met several girls who i thought were gorgeous who never dig those kids of guys and many of them slept with me. i guess what im saying is do we all have to be these extreme party animals in order to get attractive girls? and what is attractive anyway? isnt that pretty much a "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" situation? i mean yeah i like very skinny punk\alternative\grungy\goth girls. although i can see a mainstream girl with a nice body and want to have sex with her, id never really bother because she wouldnt get me, and i usually find mainstream girls uninteresting. then again alternative type girls are usually crazy. i guess what im asking here is, is it ok to have a specific type that you find physically attractive and focus on that? i mean i feel like i dont want to have a relationship with someone unless they are really skinny and alternative. but i hear so often that focussing on the physical is shallow and not the right way to find love. but i cant help it, its like the girl has to pass the skinny and good aesthetic taste test before i can even care about their personality. is that normal? also are there any guys in australia who are into watching local bands and not clubbing and would be interested in chatting about this stuff? i have never really found anyone i got along with who is interested in PUA.

Author:	FCgame [ Fri Jan 13, 2012 9:10 am ]
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Hey man! My advice would be to forget about the whole PUA thing for a while, use what you think goes with your personality and try to find your game that would save you a lot of time. I went to Melbourne 3 years ago and it was great, Australian girls are very relaxed and easy going. I know this sounds like a stupid cliché but be yourself, being authentic is one of the reasons why the guys who are very good at this succeed

Author:	nathore [ Sat Jan 14, 2012 7:31 am ]
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thanks for that. i wonder if anyone has any advice on where to go to meet girls apart from clubs and pubs.

Author:	pumpington [ Sat Jan 14, 2012 9:12 am ]
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Quote: thanks for that. i wonder if anyone has any advice on where to go to meet girls apart from clubs and pubs. everywhere and anywhere, the only thing stopping you from meeting them, is you

Author:	Coldman [ Sat Jan 14, 2012 1:08 pm ]
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Hi Nathan, Quote: i spent so long trying to be one of those "i like dancing and clubbing and party type guys." but i just never enjoy it. Don't pretend like you're something you're not. If you don't enjoy it, why do it? Quote: i also want to hear others opinions on whether all girls want out-there alpha type males or if its just mainstream girls or clubbin type girls. Everyone has different archetypes that they're attracted to. Some like fat guys, some like skinny guys, some like the typical Muscular guys. Alpha is thrown around so much and means different things, but if by Alpha you mean: A guy having a backbone, not doing things he doesn't like just because someone asked him to and not being afraid to stand up for what he believes in. Then yes, all woman are attracted to this guy. He's sexy. Quote: do we all have to be these extreme party animals in order to get attractive girls? Nope, you can be the strong, sexy and silent archetype. If that's trueer to your personality. Again, don't pretend like you're something you're not. You also don't have to go clubbing to meet girls if you don't like it. Attractive woman walk the streets every day, they're in supermarkets, bookstores, etc. Who says you can't talk to woman outside of clubs? Quote: and what is attractive anyway? isnt that pretty much a "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" situation? i mean yeah i like very skinny punk\alternative\grungy\goth girls. although i can see a mainstream girl with a nice body and want to have sex with her, id never really bother because she wouldnt get me, and i usually find mainstream girls uninteresting. then again alternative type girls are usually crazy. i guess what im asking here is, is it ok to have a specific type that you find physically attractive and focus on that? If that's what you want, why go for something else? Society is always trying to tell you what is "attractive", giving you the standards for the ideal woman. But yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, go for what YOU want. Quote: i mean i feel like i dont want to have a relationship with someone unless they are really skinny and alternative. but i hear so often that focussing on the physical is shallow and not the right way to find love. but i cant help it, its like the girl has to pass the skinny and good aesthetic taste test before i can even care about their personality. is that normal? Congratulations.... you're a human being! Yes, it's normal. Men are visual creatures. What they mean with shallow is if you ONLY care about her looks. Like if she's hot, but has a horrible personality, kills puppies, etc, and you stick with her, just because she's hot. That's shallow. It's fine to have a filter about attractive girls.

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