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Author:  Aventador [ Wed Oct 12, 2011 12:36 am ]
Post subject:  New here - Relationship issue

What's up guys? I found this forum a couple months ago and I've just been browsing around occasionally, so I thought it was about time I join.

Anyway, here's the deal right now, I've been with my current girlfriend for the past 15 months, she's 16 right now, I'm 19 and fixing to be 20. Okay, so now let me give you some history on me, so it was back in May 2010 when I broke up with my ex ( long distance) to be with this girl, I didn't know a lot about her, I just thought she was cute and went for it. At this point I was 18 and still hadn't even had my first kiss, and things between me and this girl were kind rocky at first, so I ended up making out with this other girl several times that liked me, but there was really anything there, but then I went to go see my best friend, who lives in a different state, and the last day I was there we hung out with one of his girl friends that I met 2 years back, well that night her and I ended up making, and then when my current gf back home found out, she was extremely hurt and that next day I went and saw her and she was crying and shit, but we ended up hanging out all day cause it was the 4th of July and things went good and we've been together since.

Well since we have been together, she has caused me to lose my best girl friend, because she got jealous when we would text or just chill, even if it was with a bunch of friends, well actually this girl and I still talk once in awhile and we went out mudding a couple months ago, and honestly I am pretty attracted to her, and she is my age.

So anyway, all of what I have said so far is basically just me ranting for the hell of it. Now the issue is that I am not sure if I want to continue on with the relationship, I mean we still have fun together, but we seriously hang out every single day and I just feel like I need my space, and I am starting to notice that I am getting less physically attracted to her, and I don't get that excited feeling when I see her anymore.

But after dating for this long, we have a ton of memories together and we know almost all of each others family, cause we see each other day in and day out, and letting go wouldn't be easy at all, and I don't really have any kind of social circle anymore because of lost friends and then some friends moving away, so life would sure change quite a bit.

Anyway, I just want a few opinions on what to do, and I make it sound horrible, when it really isn't, this girl is crazy about me, I just feel like there is no excitement in the relationship anymore and I don't know what to do.

Thanks for any advice guys

Author:  Leo21 [ Thu Oct 13, 2011 7:57 pm ]
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Hey man I'm not sure if you can read my intro post(I'm new to the site too) but I am now 21 and when I was your age I got my first girlfriend and I've just broken up with her. She was CRAZY about me and we were together for two years at Uni together. However our relationship deteriorated and so did my social life :(

I guess what I'm saying is get out of the relationship. Believe me it will hurt both of you and if you do the breaking up you will be the one who regrets it the most. However its really not worth it when you're young and there is so much more to do in life than waste time getting stressed and arguing, even if you love her. Unless she is THE ONE then don't waste your time trust me cuz when you're older and you look back on stuff you might have missed out on during the best years of your life you will regret losing friends etc.

Anyway that's just my advice hope you find it useful? :D

Author:  bansario [ Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:37 pm ]
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Well, Leo is giving you a shitty advice, but he might be right. You're very young, and have a lot to experience and live. Being in this kind of relationship is not entirely healthy especially since you're having doubts about it.

You can stick around, but the more time you spend with her, the more you'll regret it. It's a catch 22 because of all the reasons you've mentioned, but it's a decision you'll have to make in the end.

Do I stay with her and be miserable? Do I break up with her, hurt for a bit, move on, and meet other women?

Ask yourself those questions ;)

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