Quote: Thanks again, didn't get a one to one today with her as I expected just got a couple of mins while she was waiting for another customer (thats the trouble mainly as I feel I don't want to get her in trouble at work monopolising her) even though she seems to spend more time on me than other customers, as I only see her once a week with 5-10 mins chat and its 5 or 6 weeks in I feel I need to make a closer (not kiss close as it wouldn't be appropriate at her work) but coffee date close ie chance to talk more then put stuff into practice, so... as per my post in mid game she discounted the dog walk with the dark forest bit which today she was falling over herself to explain that she was only messing about when she said it, do I mention that she hasnt blown me out for the coffee, and 1/ give her my card and say a day etc , 2/ give her my card saying ring/text me or slide me the card back (ie clear cut situation on the no and chance for her to ring at her own time) or do you have anything slicker? I am not nervous about rejection only getting her introuble at work and getting interepted mid flow by other customers. Which is why a coffee away from work would be the thing. Sorry this drags out but I have never had such an awkward situation to speak to a woman.
First of all, don't over-think this situation. The way I see it is:
1) You already talk
2) She is friendly to you, not as a customer, but as a person
3) There's no reason for you NOT to invite her out for coffee.
Simply do it.
Do not give/take cards. That's way too formal, unless you feel that's the only way of handling things. If you want to take her number at work, and feel writing a number in your cellphone is not appropriate, simply hand her a piece of paper and say:
"Hey, I know this amazing coffee place on_____, I wanna go, and would love if you could meet me there for some laughs and stimulating conversation (smile). How does that sound to you? (keep smile)"
As soon as she answers, say "Great. Here, write down your number and I'll call you later to coordinate. I don't have much time now."
It's not so much about what you say, but how you say it. The attitude you should have is "Going out for Coffee is not a big deal". As a matte of fact, nothing is a big deal.
Relax, be decisive, and stop dragging this interaction. Remove her from the work environment and start running game on her.
Let me know if there's anything else I can do 
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