Vday Vodka (FR)
So in early February, I was invited to a valentines day party by my ex's college friends on Facebook. About a week before I got the invite, my ex and I had broken up. I didn't really understand "why" I was invited though... It played out in my mind that "if one of my friends was going through a break up, I wouldn't invite their ex to a party the next week", you know?
So anyways, I decided to say "fuck it" and go to the party. I had nothing else planned that night anyways. Oh wait. That's a lie. I was suppose to meet up with this girl from Tinder at a club and see my current fwb for a movie and vday cuddling. Lol. However, after reading Mark Manson's-Models I decided to just be straight forward and honest with them. I basically told them that I might not make it to see either of them because of the party. They understood.
I knew one of three things things were going to happen at the party:
1)my ex was going to try to hook up with me
2)my ex was probably going to make out with someone
3)I was going to shove my Excalibur so far up another girl, that whoever pulled it out would be crowned the next king Arthur
So I figured the obvious solution was to stick with my mindset of "don't give a fuck" "don't be needy" and get some liquor. Haha. So i bought a fifth of vodka, no beer, and just took that to the party. #yolo Soon as I got there I said hi to everyone, it was all her basic college friends I've seen before. No one really new. They were all shocked and surprised I was just drinking a straight up fifth of vodka. hahaha. I guess you could say this made me look more of an AMOG in some sense. But mostly it was because I knew I had a high tolerance. Either way...
But after talking with everyone about random shit, my awesome life, and playing beer pong etc. I realized, my ex was not at the party... So I decided to break the ice and I told a close mutual friend of ours named Chris "Yeah me and ex broke up.." He told me he knew, he saw it on Facebook. He then asked me if I was happy. To be fair. When you get out of a three year relationship with someone, you aren't really happy. It takes time. But I did have a rebound that came over two days later and a girl from omegle in Australia snapchating me every night. So Krikey. I was a little bit happy. Any who, I fed him what was going to be told to my ex the next day:
"I'm genuinely happy #smileyface yeah I was pretty upset man... But I've had friends take me up to Montanna, and New York, you know? Just do what they could to help cheer me up. And that's really helped. And now I'm hear with you guys, I'm just having an awesome time!"
Montanna? Haha. There is not shit in Montanna. Not shit. No offense. I didn't go there or to New York. I was just telling him that so my ex could see I was having a great time. Chris and I laughed and we continued to drink. I snapchatted a few photos of the fun for my ex to see.
So the night progressed and about 5 new people come into the party. Apparently they were neighbors. So I decided to troll and introduce myself. I told them my name was Richmond. Haha. With laser eye contact, a firm handshake, and a half empty fifth of vodka, in one hand... I could be a Richmond.
All 4 of the new people were guys, but the 5th person was just a sight for sore eyes. HB9. As soon as I saw her, "game on". Her boyfriend, let's call him Chodeo, was basically sticking close to her. As soon as she told me her name, let's call her Hotteo, I told her "Ohh. I've heard about you.. " "What?? you have??" I smirked and walked into the kitchen. I've never heard of her before in my life haha. She came rushing to me. "What have you heard?? Tell me!" I put my arm around the bottom of her waist and whispered in her ear "I didn't hear shit. I just said that to get you away from your boyfriend...
" She then gave me a smile that just screamed "I'm going to make bad decisions tonight and we're both gonna love it". She told me to go with her to where her boyfriend can't see us. I don't know if she was joking or not, so I followed her out of the kitchen. She's getting Excalibur tonight.
As soon as we got into the living room where everyone was though, her boyfriend withdrew her attention and started talking to Hotteo. So I just proceeded forward and started talking to a few other people. After I was done, I turned back to face where Chodeo and Hotteo were. Chodeo was talking to two people, and Hotteo was talking to two other people. I immediately opened Hotteo's set by asking one of the other two people she was with some random ass question. "Yes Richmond! I hate Obama Care too!" Hahaha. I'm Richmond.
I wanted to get the attention on me, and off of Hotteo. Surprisingly it worked and I could feel Hotteo so pissed off haha. I closed her out of the covo between me and the other two guys by slowly shifting my body in front of her so she was staring at my back. I now had this set. She tried to join her boyfriend's set, but couldn't. She was prying to know who I was. Now there was controversy on am I RedRover... or am I Richmond? Haha.
I made my way into another room where people are playing Kings- a drinking game, while the new people were trying to figure out who I was. As soon as I sat down, after maybe a minute, Hotteo comes into the room. I tell her "hey" and offer out my hand. Or as RSD calls it..
She takes it and I tell her to sit and play. She does. She starts asking me what my name is. I tell her "I'm RedRover. I swear." She laughs and calls me a dick asking me why I would do that. I say Idk and tell her "Look, after the divorce, I just had to change my name... You have our son Jamal anyways. He can't know who his real dad is." She was laughing and she was loving it. I told her to give me her phone so I can put my number in it. She does. But as I'm doing that her boyfriend walks into the room, see's what I am doing, then turns right back out. I didn't look him in the eye, I could just see him out of the corner of mine. Oh boy. It's cool though. I can take him.
I tell Hotteo that Chodeo just walked in and just walked out. She says "What!?" and she immediately gets up runs after Chodeo. In the mean time I give my side girl vodka a kiss and continue playing kings. I'm kind of getting a better hang of this not needy mindset. But yea after two minutes I go into the living room and see Chodeo pulling Hotteo by the hand out the door.
Hotteo: Tell him what happened!
Ok so what worked was I was able to get Hotteo away from her boyfriend by using a curiosity hook. "Oh.. I've heard about you.." And by using instant kino and by being direct. By not giving her attention and making sure she was isolated from the set also turned out to work well. As well as using roleplay where we have gotten into a divorce and now had a son (forget what that's called SPAM). I know I could have kissed closed her. Next time I have to be more aware of things. But how could how could I have isolated her especially when she had a boyfriend? Hmm. If anything I guess it could have been a quick kiss and back to the party? Idk. Anyways I'm debating what I should do next. Hotteo was hot, but she also lives about an hour drive away. I think I'm just going to let her go. I mean come on, I've already did enough damage as is. Also if I don't peruse her, I'm also not coming off as needy. And she has my number too.
This Week's Goals:
-Create a list of things I need to get accomplished every day, and accomplish them.
-Read and comment on 10 posts per day. But more importantly try my best to learn something everyday from the forum.
This Month's Goals:
-Finish Mark Manson's book Models
-Find ways to build a more attractive lifestyle
-Find out sure ways to relieve approach anxiety. When I am with friends I have no problem approaching. But soon as I am on my own, I sike myself out.
-Read up and comment on other people's field reports
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-Become a mod on this forum
-Develop a great lifestyle with a great amount of new friends