holy.
fuckin.
shit.
i swear. my body is literally shaking right now - i can't believe what i just did. i actually approached a girl in the store during the DAYTIME and got her number.
wow.
this shit is crazy. did i really just do this? WTF just happened. i'm in a state of shock and disbelief...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6WZmxs9ZeBw
I cannot even begin to describe the thrill and adrenaline that you feel when you have a taste of glory like this. I feel really good about myself. honestly i don't really care about the girl, and won't pursue a relationship with her because she's deaf. sorry - no offense to deaf people worldwide. but that's besides the point: I DID IT! HOORAH.
Sex sells. I've suspected that getting pussy through daygame was just a myth created by hungry marketers taking advantage of desperate virgins and D&D addicted nerds who are too socially autistic to see that's it's just one big scam lie. but now I see the truth.
It IS possible to get laid doing this: because i've seen SUCCESS with my own eyes. It's possible but bloody hard and requires daredevil balls, nerves of steel (the willingness to get rejected countless times) and social skills for calibration. Daygame pussy pursuit is an exotic sport that's not for everyone. Sorry but that's the truth.
For a while now I've been considering quitting daygame and switching to online game because (1) that's how most of the world gets laid. so I'm assuming I'll have higher chances there: especially since I can message 100 - 200 girls a day vs max 10-20 street approaches a day(if I don't end up wussying out) + i've had success online before (2) because there's only so much rejection and failure you can take before you give up. the constant failures with women was making me bitter and were creating a misogynistic attitude within me (i've been trying to fight it with affirmations but sometimes you just can't help it). (3) being in the streets is quite stressful, time consuming and sucks up a lot of energy out of me with little return. not to mention, occasionally very embarrassing and awwwwkward. sometimes i can't sleep the night before I go out sarging and i lay in bed awake the entire night. yes, i'm serious. But today's success has given me hope and the will to keep moving forward. Nothing is as motivating as a taste of victory.
i am now deciding that i shall not be quiting daygame because (1) like i said, it's POSSIBLE. (2) right now I have the habit of daytime approaching at least once a week, if I stop then it will be quite hard to get back into the cycle. (3) i've noticed that it's a lot easier now then it was when i first started. i still feel anxious and scared before i approach but only like 30% of what I used to feel. + I'm always learning new things everytime I go out. (4) i really enjoy making the vids. that's the source of half my motivation to approach, right there. (5) i've already come sooo far: it would be a shame to drop it all. If I quit on my dreram, i'll feel like i killed a fetus lol (6) this came as a shock to me but i realized being good online does NOT transfer to having good social skills in real life. seduction skills need to be developed outside the virtual world.
the last few days i tried to walk up to random girls and strike up conversation with them but for some reason I kept wussying out and/or deluding myself with bullshit excuses about why i couldn't/or shouldn't do it. i recall with crystal clear memory specifically spending over an hour getting to timesquare ONLY to end up walking aroud but not doing a single approach. this has happened multiple times. i'm finally proud of myself for having the balls to go out and do it!
what i learned today is that the main reason i was scared to approach before was because i blew up this thing way out of proportion. approaching is really not a big deal like I made it out to be: i cared too much and that made me nervous. it was only scary because I MADE it scary. YOU CREATE YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE.
you have to stop giving a fuck and honestly pay it no mind to what happens as a result of your walking up to girls. even if goes bad, so what? think like this and you'll get in the right mood. then approaching becomes easy and even fun.
the first approach of the day is usually the hardest. the hardest thing is getting yourself in the ZONE but I've found that after 5 - 10 or sometimes 15 approaches something happens to me. it's like a switch is turned on and everything changes. some beast unleashes within me and all of a sudden it becomes easy to approach and i almost feel no fear. that's what I call getting in the ZONE. it's pretty hard to get into the ZONE, so once you're in it - exploit it fully. it's best not to interrupt or distract yourself with ANYTHING else - less you lose it. even a 30 minute lunch break can be enough to kick you out of the ZONE.
someone once asked the infamous dr.destruction how he manages to enter beastmode and what he answered changed my life. he said "It's all in Approach Momentum. Approaching every single girl you see. Not letting even one slip away" Now that I think reflect on my personal experience I can understand what he's saying. Every-time you don't approach a target you know you should, it's a blow to your state. Enough of those, and you'll lose approach momentum and be kicked out of the zone.
other lessons that I learned:
1. Sometimes you only have 5 seconds to approach her. She could literally disappear in 5 seconds and you'll lose your chance. This is especially true in the street. If you hesitate, even for a moment: everything can change. So approach instantly.
2. The hardest part is getting the girl to stay after you open her. At this point, many of the girls that I approach instantly walk away. I've found that it's critical not to have an awkward silence - even for 1 second or she'll exuse herself out of the interaction. You must immediately follow up with an observation. Keep conversation in the air AT ALL TIMES until she's hooked. This rule alone will improve your game by 300%.
3. Acknowledge the mom and don't ignore her. If you win her over, she can hand you her daughter. Simply saying "hi" to her demonstrates confidence: "I know you're here and I'm not hiding from you because I know that you'll like me."
4. If you're approaching near a subway or bus, you have to qualify and number close her FAST. Because at any point, she may have to go. Alternatively, you can pretend that you need to take that subway or bus as well but I wouldn't say it's worth it unless she's clearly into you.
5. It's best to approach within 3 seconds but if you didn't, don't let that be an excuse not to approach her later. Just mention "I've noticed you a few minutes ago..."
6. If you're taking her on to instant date, you have to LEAD and walk infront of her. Otherwise, it will look like you're following her around and that makes you look needy. Take her hand and show her where to go.
7. Take breaks in between approaches and break up your approach quota. It's a lot easier to do 4 approaches at a time, for 3 times than it is to do 12 approaches at once.
8. Always add humor to put her at ease and to lighten up the situation so you don't come off as too serious/needy. Even if it's a lame joke and it falls flat, you've still accomplished this goal.
9. Use an indirect opener in venues where your social reputation matters such as the library or college campus. Gauge her reaction. If she looks unfriendly then avoid her. But if she responds well, follow up with a direct opener: "You're actually kind of cute.
" However, if you open everyone with a direct opener then you risk coming across someone who is very unreceptive who may inform security.
10. If you've approached a girl in a store and she rejected you. Depending on the girl, it may be wise to not let her see you approach other girls as she can again inform security. However, if she seemed casual and laid back (like tourists are) then it's fine.
11. Never open with "Do you speak english?" because you're giving her the idea to pretend she doesn't speak it. Being approached during the daytime can be shocking and intimidating for girls, and they trick you into thinking to speak the language in order to get out of an awkward situation.
12. Don't be afraid to approach from behind - even if you don't know how she looks like. If she's not your type, then you'll back out and ask for directions. But if she turns out to be cute then you'll procceed with your direct opener.
13. Once you do a direct opener on a girl in a group, then you can no longer do one on the other girls in the same group because then you'll come off as a pickup-artist who does this to all the girls he meets. You can only go indirect on them so be aware of the members of a group. Also keep in mind, that girls in groups have ASD and are less likely to show interest because they are scared of being judged by their peers. That's why lone wolves are the best (+ no cockblockers).
14. If she feels attracted to you, exploit this by asking tough qualifying questions like "What makes you stand out from all the other girls?", by doing heavy kino and by compliance tactics such as moving her around the store. Otherwise, her attraction for you goes to waste and you miss out on the opportunity to amplify it.
15. When you're actually doing an approach, emotions take over and pickup knowledge often goes out the window. You'll notice that you accidentally stutter and break common game principles that are well-known and accepted in the seduction community.
For example: I attempted to stop a walking set today with asking for directions. I was planning on transitioning into a full blown conversation but I made the mistake of saying "Thank you." I forgot that, that's a bad trigger word. The second I said "thank you" she smiled and instantly walked off - leaving me speechless. I should have made it clear that I wasn't done talking to her instead of eliciting a goodbye anchor. I've learned this rule before but why did I break it today?
Because it takes a lot of practice and experience to integrate PUA knowledge into your skill set. We tend to forget the basics of game and that's why constantly reviewing them on a daily basis via a cheatsheet is a good idea: especially if they revolve around your stickingpoints.
16. Doing a handful of approaches 5 - 10, every time i go out sarging, is good if you want to accustom yourself to breaking approach anxiety but (1) it's not going to get me laid and (2) it's not going to get badass skills. I really need to take it to the next level, in terms of approach count and do like 20 - 25 at a time. (double what I'm used to doing). Why? Because (1) The more you approach, the higher your statistical chance of getting success. And (2) Skills do not come after a handful of practices. They come after MASSIVE MASSIVE practice of doing the same thing over and over and over and over again - until you've done it so many times, you know it like it's your backhand.
17. When I'm infield, there are so many excuses in my head - not to approach - it's insane. I need to quiet the mind and not think. JUST do. The more I analyze the situation before approaching, the more likely I am to talk myself out of it. Silence of the mind is golden.
18. According to researchers, the mind cannot distinguish between imagination and reality. That's why you feel REAL emotions and experience physiological changes during dreams and movies. To overcome approach anxiety, visualize yourself approaching targets over and over until you create a self-image that's congruent with being a pickup-artist (just don't let it become your entire identity).
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P.s. sorry i haven't responded to comments on this FR. I'll try to do so tomorrow.