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vizzy
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PostPosted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 10:07 pm    Post subject: Which head should I be thinking with? Reply with quote
Well I know this is the WORST place to ask this question, and I can already anticipate the answers. But here goes anyway.
A female friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend a month ago, I know when we first me she was really attracted to me, and I know I could've gotten her but I really didn't want to fuck up their relationship and her bf seemed like a nice guy (they had been going out for a year). So I just left it.
Anyways we became good friends, and she's like one of the only female friend I have (I mean, REALLY, I only have like 2 other female friends who I haven't fucked...and it's because I DON'T want to fuck them).
I don't want a relationship with this girl, but have I known her long enough (3 years) to make it weird and awkward if I did fuck her?
It's happened with plenty of other female friends, we hang out, end up sleeping together and then there is this awkward stage, and eventually the friendship falls apart. Although in a few cases we'd be "fuck buddies" for a while, but even then it'll fall apart eventually.
And what would happen as a result of that is that when I'm hanging out with some other friends, and one of the girl friends is there, it makes things even that much more awkward.
So now, I want to do something with this girl, but at the same time I'm thinking it wouldn't be the smartest idea to ruin ANOTHER social circle because ALOT of her friends are friends with me, but better friends with her. I keep telling myself, "oh nah, it won't be awkward, you'll just have sex a few times then just go on being friends". But for some fucked up reason it never works out that way.
I've asked some of my good guy friends, and they've given me similar responses such as "fucking control yourself ffs", "you haven't learnt anything from your other good friends you nailed" and "do what you want, but chances are you guys aren't going to be good friends after that"

What do you guy's think? although I think I already know the responses I'll get hahah
Nonetheless, I still want opinions.
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PostPosted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 11:29 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote
friends come and go bro. Unless you plan on staying in the came city for the rest of your life....
If you want a relationship-lay everything out on the table
If you don't and just want to fuck her- fuck her and make new friends

just my 2 cents
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PostPosted: Thu Nov 05, 2009 2:22 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote
It depends how much you value her friendship.
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PostPosted: Fri Nov 06, 2009 5:36 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
Firstly in regards to "friends come and go", in my case, so do the women I sleep with eventually.

And I am alright friends with her, I haven't seen her in a while, but I speak to her very occasionally on messenger.
I know when I first met her she was attracted to me. And I didn't know at the time, but the same weekend her and her BF broke up, she invited me to go out clubbing with her and her friends. I didn't actually know she was no longer with her BF when she invited me, so I didn't end up going. Although I know I could've gamed her then.

It's not so much only her friendship I could be screwing up. But like half my social circle is also friends with her, so it might not be the smartest idea..

ehh fuck it I'll just go for it, no point arguing with myself.
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PostPosted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 8:15 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
Keep her as a friend. Build your social network. She can be your best ally when it comes to getting with a particual "challenge". Friends are more important than busting a nut. Just be strong and control your desires. Choose your habits while you can, because if you allow your desires to control you, then your life will become out of your control.

Example : My mother has a kidney stone. The reason why because she drinks cokes instead of water. Can she stop? No. Can she even realize that her drinking cokes is a bad habit? Yes. Can she stop. Still NO. Why not. Because she doesn't WANT to. She equates her desire as her control. In reality, it is a system of choices that has applied to her life over decades. She is so far out of control she can't even understand where to begin.

Therefore If you fuck all women now by choice, Later in life it will be IMPOSSIBLE for you to hold a friendship with a women.
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