YOU ARE A NATURAL.
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Like I told the guys in Chief's workshop this past weekend, my "specialty" happens to be house parties. I took a second today to figure out why that was.
It didn't take long to figure it out: house parties are relaxed, fun environments in which everyone is expected to get to know everyone else. Approach anxiety makes even less sense at a house party than it does anywhere else; it's
expected that you'll bounce around the party talking to everyone.
Tactics, techniques, and "game" are all obsoleted by the social dynamics of an intimate gathering like that. "Normal" approaches are totally "normal" and don't feel strange at all. "Hey, what's up?" is
expected. It's so normal that it doesn't even imply interest. People vibe with each other, emotions synchronize and get amplified, and attraction flows from that naturally.
Every piece of natural game that you have is amplified at house parties. In fact, I suspect that house parties appear to be my "specialty" because they're the easiest venue to pull from no matter who you are.
Then it's just a matter of closing. Show up, talk to people, have fun, pull. That simple. It seems easy because there's no thinking. The more fun you're having, the more likely you are to pull.
After actually typing that last sentence out, something else suddenly makes sense: why all of my pulls have always seemed so easy. If I'm having fun and not thinking, I'm doing well. If I'm not having fun and I have to push myself to interact, I'm not doing well. It follows, quite simply, that there's a huge gap between the likelihood of an "easy" pull when I'm in state and the likelihood of a "hard" pull when I'm not.
Which, itself, also makes sense. This game is emotional. If my emotions are going great, if I've already got everything going for me, it's cake. The girls just fall in line with everything else in my world.
If I'm chilled out and having fun, pulls are a foregone conclusion, should I decide to go for them. Who needs game? Just get into the right headspace and you get attraction! Then just go for the close and it's yours for the taking!
If only it were that simple. Well, it is... almost.
WHY YOU DON'T NEED GAME
As one of our students learned this weekend, most of the information that you soak up in seminars or on message boards won't actually help you in field. Evolutionary psychology? Not unless you're gonna talk about it for some reason. Masculine polarity? Come on, are you actually going to dedicate mental processor power to that in a club?
Any tactical or technical stuff? It seems cool, I guess... until you realize that you don't really need it. "Hey, what's up?" works just as well, under most circumstances, as the most delicately microcalibrated opinion opener, as long as you've got the energy and flow to back it up after you open.
If you're thinking about tech in field, you're doing yourself a disservice. You don't need to think. In fact, thinking only gets in the way of your emotions, which, when expressed, are what cause attraction to happen in the first place.
Despite the best efforts of several pickup gurus to try to prove otherwise, the fact remains that this game is still not logical and is instead very much emotional. Technique-based game is merely game with synthetic expressions of emotion instead of real ones. Your own core personality can carry you just as far as any flowchart-based logical method.
So who needs pickup material?
THE ROLE OF LEARNING MATERIALS
A lot of guys, it turns out.
You could have a dude who has everything in the world going for him EXCEPT his love/sex life. He could be raking in cash and be in perfect health, but something's just not clicking with the ladies. With a dude like this, some presentation work and inner game troubleshooting is all he needs to be as good as the "best" pooah out there. There's very little else that he actually needs.
So what do you "need?" What is the absolute bare-assed minimum basic set of things you need to know?
STORMY METHOD OUTER GAME: STRIPPED DOWN FOR EFFICIENCY
We're going to start
and end with the nonverbals. Several methods present these as accessories, as frosting on the routine-based cake. "Several methods" have it ass-backwards. You can say damn-near anything as long as your nonverbals are good.
Vocal Projection: you've gotta be LOUD. As our good buddy jlaix reminds us every chance he gets, this is probably the most important piece of your game. This enables people to actually hear what you're saying, and also demonstrates confidence. This isn't some accessory to your game that you can maybe work on if you're plateauing. This is very, very basic.
Vocal Tonality: avoid trying for rapport (meaning that your sentences sound as if you're asking a question no matter what you say). If your inner game is in decent shape, this really shouldn't be much of a problem because you won't actually BE trying for rapport. But if you're in the habit of speaking like this, getting rid of it will help tremendously.
Eye Contact: easy to fix if you've got a problem with it. And fixing this won't "add to" your attractiveness; it will make you attractive
to begin with. Not maintaining eye contact will send all but the most desperate of girls running off to greener pastures.
Kino: did I emphasize this enough a while back? Of course not. Kino communicates everything you need to communicate: interest, dominance, fearlessness, the whole smash. If you aren't using kino, you aren't picking up. You're doing something else.
That does it for nonverbals. Those four points right there are the most important parts of your game. If you think your game is plateauing, make sure your nonverbals are where they should be before you go running off to memorize more routines or read up on the latest studies about animal mating or whatever.
The best part? If your inner game is in good shape and you're unstifled and having a good time (in other words, you're doing what you're SUPPOSED to do at parties to begin with), this stuff all flows naturally. It doesn't matter how many DHV spikes your stories have or how awesome your peacocking is. Your very presence is a demonstration of higher value.
Then it's just a matter of actually opening and closing. You can handle the rest on your own.
OPENING
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The most over-analyzed area of pickup. And because of that, the scariest part of a pickup. It seems that people think that the scariness can be blown away with logic, which just isn't true. Imposing a logical frame of mind on ANY part of pickup brings logic into the equation, which will mess you up. Logic means perfectionism, whereas emotion doesn't care. Don't think. In fact, if you want your opening game to improve, do yourself the service of never reading about opening theory ever again. All you'd be doing is putting more logic into something that isn't supposed to be logical to begin with.
All I'll say about opening is this: just do it. Doesn't matter how. Just get into a conversation and get rolling. Say "hi." Stick your tongue out at a girl. Doesn't matter. Just get into an interaction SOMEHOW. The more you think about this, the harder it'll be, thanks to the effect of paralysis by analysis.
So don't think about this. Just do it. It's okay to screw up. It's also okay to succeed. In order to move forward, you have to
move.
And once you're moving, you'll be amazed by what works that you never thought could work.
CLOSING
This gets WAY less attention than opening in most of the pickup community... which is funny, because this is what we're here to do to begin with. Just as well, though, because that means less opportunity to overanalyze and screw yourself up.
I'll make this as simple as possible: if the girl is attracted to you (which happens far, far faster than routine-based methods tell you it does), her energy is up, and ASD isn't an issue, there is nothing left to do but CLOSE.
Get that number. Kiss that girl. Pull.
You can get the number within seconds. But you can't fuck a phone number, so this is really a fallback. I don't even bother number-closing unless I kiss the girl first (in night game, anyway). On the other side of the coin, if you have a decent interaction with a girl for a few minutes, the number is guaranteed. In fact, I'll go so far as to say that if you hook, the number is yours for the taking. It's not even a decision for the girl. She'll be ecstatic that a guy is manning up and asking for her number, unlike the slew of guys who she might be attracted to, but don't even try.
You can kiss the girl much, much faster than you might think. That same student I was talking about earlier learned this one GOOD (and I'm hoping he discusses what he learned in his review of the workshop, whenever he gets around to writing it). Smiling, happy girl, receptive to kino = girl that wants to be kissed. She may want some isolation first, but make no mistake about it: she wants you to lead her to a place where you can make out.
Teh secks: are you making out with the girl? Then you can fuck her, assuming you've got a decent location (unless the girl is down for a bathroom pull or something) and you can overcome any LMR that might pop up. It really is that simple.
CLOSING TECHNIQUES
You don't need them.
How do you kiss a girl? With your lips, duh. The "gettin' down to business" part of the pickup happens entirely in YOUR reality. It goes down how you want it to go down. That's how the girl wants it.
She wants you to roll up and offer her a ride through your reality. She wants you to kiss her. She wants you to pull her. She wants you to fuck her. She wants you to pull her into your reality and show her the world according to YOUR rules. She wants you to put her into position and plow her.
She's a GIRL. That's how girls operate. They don't make the moves. They sit back and let guys make the moves, maybe positioning themselves to get the guys' attention. They might congruence-test here or there, but ultimately, they want a guy who can step in and take control.
Do you understand yet why you don't need to be told a routine with which to close a girl? It's because the close only happens on MY terms when I'M the one closing. When YOU'RE in the field, when YOU'RE closing, it happens on YOUR terms.
You don't need anyone else to tell you when to close. Your core will tell you that. You're a natural, remember? Even if you think you aren't, there is most definitely a natural inside of you. All you need to do is start listening to yourself.
You're built for this, dammit. Strip away the social conditioning and inhibitions and embrace your destiny. This is YOUR life. This is YOUR reality. Live it by YOUR rules.
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