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Ok so she was distant because she was having internal turmoil as is mentioned below.
Something smells fishy already.
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So she was being super on it texting me sexy stuff all day yesterday. I did not go all out back. I played a little slow but didn't keep her waiting too much. She was relentless all day telling me how she was getting off thinking about me and stuff like that and how I am so sexy in every way. She said "love" like 20 times but like "I love your dick" "I love how you do xyz"etc
Fun.
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She was going to come over today but instead she breaks it off with me and tells me, I think this is unhealthy how I am feeling about you. She lists out some stuff, I respond back countering each because they are easily changeable issues but obviously the specifics are the not actual core issues.
Eh. Too much "logic talk" so early in the courtship on your part.
If she says "It's unhealthy how I feel about you", you say, "I'm still more healthy than a Value Meal" or "I can't help it if I'm good."
You don't go on a point by point Debbie Downer refutation of every thing she says. Keep it light, fun, and playful.
Every thing she says is capable of being spun back into a tease or lighthearted response.
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Basically shes falling for me and is afraid I have too much power over her because she realizes she is dick whipped. She is also literally afraid of me, she thinks I could be dangerous to her physically (I am physically intimidating, she was literally shaking the first and second time we met) but that is also what excites her because that is what makes her get off when we have sex.
I've been here, man.
She's on the fence because she doesn't feel safe around you. There are ways to diffuse this. First, maintain the playfulness as I wrote above. Second, you have to show some kind of vulnerability. Send her a cute video of koala bears or cats doing messed up shit. Or relay a story about yourself that shows a vulnerability. Lastly, women do not feel safe around men who aren't emotionally-centered (IE controlling, possessive, over-contacting).
Those three things will soften her image of you just enough to where she feels safer with you.
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I tried to comfort her a bit which she said she appreciated so I said lets meet up and just hang out, no expectations. And she said no because all roadblocks would go right out the window if we were together and she would be even deeper.
You comfort her by being playful, not explaining things.
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This has actually been similar feedback I have gotten from multiple other women (actually the only feedback). So I do believe it to be honest. I think I know what I am doing but its not something I can change.
If you're acting in a way that prevents women from coming over, it's something you'll have to change.
Send her the cute video.