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Field Report - Level 5 Clinger
Sooooo I went out on my "date", arriving for her 20 minutes late. She looked pretty much how I expected her to look - cute, but chubby. She was slightly pissed off at my lateness, but that wore off quickly. I teased her about some wine she had promised me but didn't bring, and then I took her over to my place for a drink, where I gave her my background about my cheating ex. She seemed comfortable, then we went to the movies. This is when things started to get a bit...worrying.
I went in the line to get tickets and she "joked" not to talk to any girls. Ok.
We get in the movies and there's a group message going on in my phone about the walking dead (yes, I'm that kind of nerd). She mentions about "all the messages I'm getting". I don't check my phone. I move the arm rest and she's leaning on me during the movies, we're holding hands, etc. I do give her a couple kisses on the cheek.
More messages come to my phone and I notice her sitting up straight. A few minutes later I pull her back down to me. When the movie finishes I suggest more drinks by me and we get more drinks. While we're getting drinks she's saying that she wants to go to a particular event, but I counter and tell her I'm NOT going to that event but a competing one. She seems to get a bit sullen but I tell her that I'll take her to the other event. She doesn't want to go because it will be hard to find an outfit, but I tell her my mind is made up because I already promised the promoter I'll be going, and I don't go back on my word.
We get by me and we're making out, but in between we're talking and she's making comments, saying how she doesn't want a "short term relationship". We get to petting but she moves my hand but I do NOT push things (hehe). Later when I'm taking her back home she makes a comment about "her boyfriend (ME APPARENTLY) taking her out this weekend. This blows my fucking mind.
The thing is, she is kinda cute and definitely open to sex. I just need to figure out a way to reduce the clingerness. I will definitely put my own thoughts on the line - not being ready for a relationship. If she wants to pull away or not see me, fine.
Hey Choc, a few points:
Chick sounds kinda clingy, but some of that is on you. I feel like activity dates and movies typically establish a relationship vibe more so that straight drinks. Then you're discussing your old relationship...kissing her on the CHEEK...inviting her to events...I was more surprised that YOU were surprised she said the boyfriend thing. Figured thats what you were going for. Slow some of that stuff down...you'll get more chicks thinking things are more serious than they are. You're doing casual potential boyfriend vs casual date. You're going to a different event than her? Ok...meet up afterwards = casual. Come to my event = serious.