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The real thing you need to do is ask yourself why you want to bed someone that is not primarily attracted to males and has a higher comfort level with males and probably won't be that great in the sack anyway.
You have a better chance of getting a 3way with two normal chicks than getting 2 lesbians in the sack with you. with normal chicks getting in bed with another woman is something new and exciting. with lesbians it is just going to turn into a big territory battle.
That's true, I know I'm not that good with handling a penis, that's for sure.
Also true about territory battle.
As far as damaged goods go, yeah it's true to some extent for a large subgroup of lesbians. There are even severely damaged women out there who go as far as hating men or having men phobia, I had a roommate like that. There are, however, some girls (like myself) who view being sexual with men just as experimentation in the same way a straight chick might fool around with another woman. I don't know anymore, but maybe it has to do with good self-image and maturity. You hit a nail about lesbians being generally unattractive, that's why I like straight girls. These unattractive lesbians know they're unattractive. I used to be very butch (during my teens), people would mistake me for a boy. So everywhere I went I felt like an outcast, guys wouldn't even look at me like a person, just as some "thing" that's not even a woman and this has a great impact on self esteem etc. The thing I didn't realize then in my rebellious years it this: it's just the way it is. In some utopian world things might be different, but in the world we live in there are gender roles and you just have to accept it. I guess I get hit on much more now (as much as a straight chick would) is because I'm comfortable in my skin, with my fitting clothes that show my curves, my longer hair, my make-up and I'm always laughing, I'm a nice girl who is comfortable with who she is. Men can sense that. They can sense I don't resent them for wanting hot chicks, I don't hate them, I'm not afraid of them and they generally make a very good connection with me. And I love men, I really do, so many of my best friends are men, I just love the simplicity of the interaction, not having to read their mind.
So my point is, the lesbian you're going to seduce has to have these things resolved. Also, if you try to pick up a lesbian in a gay club, there's gonna be so much ASD, god forbid her lez friends see she's getting with a guy. So maybe an under the radar approach might be better, just being "friends", this will also build comfort she needs to have sex with you, she'll need plenty.