I need some tips and opinions.
I'm trying to seduce a very hot girl who is exceptionally intelligent and interesting.
After a very successful second date I tried to go ice skating as a third date.
This I guess was two fast as she answered LJBF. (Details later)
I know that alot auf PUAs recommend to just drop her.
But there are a lot of reasons that make me want to try to turn the LJBF around.
- I'm not in love with her and as I have another one in the pipe (or my pipe in another one
) I'm surely not needy
- She sent a lot of IOIs and the whole situations makes me think of the LJBF as a shit test.
- I want her as practice material
- I can't see any risk in pushing this further
Some background information:
I'm from Germany and I'm not a native English speaker. It is not always easy to translate connotational meaning exactly.
Text messages (SMS) are very common here and in this case almost all the communication was via SMS.
She is single.
This is what happend - a short chronology
Last summer I gave her a two hour ride in my car together with some other strangers (I use an internet platform to share gas-costs). I didn't know her before.
For Christmas I sent a lot of text messages to all the girls I havn't heard of for a long time and she was one of the girls who answered.
I made her asking me out for a date.
Our first date was kind of weird. She was very reserved and I only could create some moments of rapport.
I thought I messed it up but I don't give up easily.
So I contacted her again and we had our the second date.
Her attitude had completely changed and we warmed up quickly. She sent a lot of IOIs. She had a lot to tell about herself and I actually was impressed how interesting a girl could be.
I used some PU stuff on her to create rapport. This time successfully.
A view days later I tried to initiate a third Date. I wanted to go ice skating with her.
Here I clearly must have made a mistake. Here is what happend:
I sent her an email
everything alright with you?
You wanted to give me some information bout the parachuting camp. Won't you forget that? I gotta get there!
I'll go some ice skating the next days. And you'll come with me.
[Some more blahblah]"
"[blabla about parachuting]
I don't know if I can motivate myself for ice skating but let's go and drink another beer together."
Here I guess I made the mistake as I tried to push her on ice skating telling her my motivation is enough for two.
Now here is her answer to that.
"Hey! Maybe I'm wrong, but I have the feeling that you may want more than friendship. That's not possible. Sorry, I had to tell you that.
Do you want to go out for a beer next week?"
I had a very good answer to this and it worked out well:
"Hahahahaha! If it is like this.... ok! We divorce! You can keep the dog!
She answered me and as the both of us had tests and examns we havn't communicated since then (3 weeks).
Yesterday I sent her a text message and we gonna meet for a beer in a week.
Now I really apprecciate your opinions on this.
Any ideas, games, stuff, tricks, behaviors how I can change the LJBF around?
She is a person who needs negs as she has all reasons to be self confident. But is it a good idea to use negs on a third date?
Thanks very much in advance
Greetings from Munich, Germany