Hello,
I am new to this forum and would like some advice/analysis on a situation.
Over the summer, on a late night run to McDonald's, a young lady working the drive thru window caught my eye. She was all smiles, and her eye contact lingered longer than usual, thus noticing or feeling a sense of attraction. I thought I should come back more often and try to get something going with her.
Description, she's maybe at most a high 5, I got a geek girl/gamer/alt/maybe former emo vibe from her look. She looks no older than 23, slender, decent body, perky B cup tits. She's not butt ugly, but she's not drop dead gorgeous. I found myself strongly attracted. I was picking up on a vibe that she might be easy.
But for me this all presented a challenge. How to build rapport with a limited time window, inbetween getting my food and driving off, plus I have social anexity.
So for about a month I would come through the drive thru a couple times a week, maybe this could lead to uncertainty reduction through repeat exposure.
One night, I finally asked what her name was, she tells me, I then tell her she has a really nice smile.
She seems overjoyed at the attention I am giving her, and during this brief interaction she is doing the upper body foward lean , attracted body language.
These appear to be good signs.
Next step is to ask for her number. Next time I see her, I make small talk and ask "What would you say if I asked for your phone number ?"
Her vocal tone changes as she says "I would say I don't give out my number."
This came as a surprise, not what I was expecting.
I simply said "I understand."
I hadn't be back to that McDonald's in months, and I went back more recently, she was still there, and I'm still attracted/ hot for her.
I was thinking can this being turned down be recovered? Women are fickle. She might or could have changed her mind. (Or should I look at this as an absolute shut down?)
Where did I possibly go wrong the first time I asked?
What type of approach should I try the second time around?
I was thinking give her my business card.
Any suggestions
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