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If you try to make plans and she can't, but doesn't throw out an alternative you should always drop it, right?
I'd say it depends...
Many new guys are poor communicators and dont understand who it works. For eg, a guy and girl text exchange may be:
Blah blah blah, whatever bs before the date "invite"
Him: I'm heading to X bar on Friday with friends, you're welcome to join.
Her: Sure great what time?
Time is set up, somewhere in between she cant make it. May be legit or not
Her: Sorry cant make Friday, have fun!
Now, here she's not giving you an alternative, but thats due to the nature of your "invite." You said you were going to a place and said she was welcome to join. Its not something she can offer an alternative for. Same way if your friends are going to a movie on a specific night ,invite you but you cant make it. What could you say? "Cant make it but lets watch the movie again X night"? No, you'd just say you cant make it. My point is, dont make things more difficult to understand by using wishy washy date "invites." Be clear that its a date in the first place. That way if she doesnt offer an alternative, you can make an inference.
A date invite should be a mutual thing....You two should want to hang out. She should want to meet you and at least show some signs of that before you suggest that. If it's a mutual desire to meet, she'll offer an alternative.